Why did Lily marry James ? / Snapes other worst memory

[darrin_burnett]

No: HPFGUIDX 67344


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> I think the original idea of using a love potion and having the 
plan go wrong and it being Snape's other worst memory, seems too far-
> fetched. For one thing, there has never been any evidence Snape 
> considered Lily as anything more than a "mudblood". That's one of 
> the biggest fan misconceptions of this series.

Agreed, and Hermione-Draco is just behind it.


> When I first read someone compare a love potion to a date rape 
drug,  my first reaction was "Whoa! What muggles have you been 
talking> to?"  A date rape drug impairs your judgement and motor 
skills, and  could knock you out for a while resulting in a person 
being  violated. A love potion's purpose is to in a way have the 
objectof one's desire be attracted to them, something that doesn't 
include  violence. From everty time I've heard a love potion being 
used in stories or movies or what have you, it has never been related 
to  rape. I doubt the potion lasts long, but I won't go into that 
> anymore because a love potion has only been mentioned once or twice 
> in the series, and never in detail about use in HP wizard world.

Picture a woman who has no interest whatsoever in a man. The man has 
insulted her, called her the worst racial slur imaginable, is 
fascinated with Dark Arts the woman finds repugnant and has greasy 
hair.

The man slips her a love potion, making her fall in love, which goes 
against her will, perhaps making her do things she wouldn't do except 
at gunpoint (and maybe not even then.)

That is a rape.

The original post, if I recall, said that James stole Snape's Love 
Potion and used it on Lily, which was nice, because it essentially 
made them both disgusting. 

> So far any reason given why Lily and James married is all 
> speculation. But why is it so hard to believe it could have been 
> love? Assuming James' dislike for Snape never went away, since 
> Sirius' obviously didn't, that's not the point as I see it. Lily 
and  James were Head Boy and Girl together, allowing them a lot of 
time to spend to get to know one another. So, maybe Lily saw beyond 
the feud and cockyness (if he still was by their seventh year). But 
like I said, it's all speculation so far.


I agree with you. It shouldn't be so hard to grasp that James grew up 
and reformed and that is who Lily fell in love with. (I mean, aren't 
we expected to believe Snape did, or that Draco still can?)

Darrin