Harry, Hermione & Ron [SHIP + CRAB]
Doriane
delwynmarch at yahoo.com
Thu Jul 31 10:35:51 UTC 2003
No: HPFGUIDX 74327
I'm a bit lost in who said what, so I'll just throw the quotes in
without giving their authors, sorry guys, no offence meant.
> > As has been mentioned before, there is always the jealously Ron
> > feels when Hermione is interested in other guys,
>
> Ron exhibits jealousy of Viktor. Period. He exhibits no jealousy
> whatever of Harry, even though Hermione spends more of GoF w/ Harry
> than with him.
Oh-oh :-) Didn't you notice Ron's reaction in the after-kiss scene in
OoP ? I was laughing my head off when I read it the first time (and
still do).
Paraphrasing :
Ron (asking about the kiss) : how was it ?
Harry : wet... because she was crying.
Ron : are you such a bad kisser !?
Harry : I don't know... Maybe !
Hermione : of course not !
Now here comes my point : go grab your book, and re-read Ron's
reaction to Hermione's words. In essence, he looks at her
suspiciously and demands : "how do you know ?" As I said, I was
laughing my head off when I read that because I could perfectly
figure out what was going on in Ron's head : "how do you know Harry's
not a bad kisser ? DID YOU KISS HIM ?" Ron is simply DEAD JEALOUS :-
) !
Now of course I am aware that I was reading this scene while under
the influence of my strong R/H SHIPping. So yes I admit I might have
put feelings in Ron's heart that JKR never intended to be there.
Could be. But they would fit with that scene at least.
> Their constant arguing is nothing like the teasing and attention-
> grabbing that occurs among teen-agers when there is an attraction
> involved. They are friends, they like and even admire each other,
> but they are very different people and it's their differences that
> fuel the bickering, NOT some imaginary mutual attraction. They
> squabble like siblings, and her attitude toward Ron is very 'big
> sister' overall.
Er... Now why do you think I favor a R/H SHIP ? Precisely because
they are acting as I was when I was their age and I had a crush on
someone.
As for the big sister thingy, I'll have to say that it doesn't have
to mean there's no attraction involved. In fact, when a girl starts
trying to act like a boy's mother (or big sister), it too often means
she's interested in him. Girls want the best for the guys they love,
and unfortunately they often think they know better than those guys
what this "best" is. So they try and force them to do this and not be
like that. It is a VERY common trait in most girls and women when
they have romantic feelings for someone. And it is one of the major
complaints of guys concerning their girls : that they are always
telling them what to do, what to wear, what to say, what to think,
what to feel and what to like. My own husband had a few girlfriends
like that, and was incredibly relieved to find me, who had learned in
the meantime through bitter mistakes that I have no right and way not
enough wisdom to try and mold someone else according to my ideas. I
still catch myself doing it way too often (on this list, for
example :-), but I always regret it when I realize what I've done,
and I always try never to do it again.
> > In GoF, she's clearly indifferent to his post-Yule sulking &
> > brooding, thinks very little of his emphasis on appearances over
> > substance, and generally not terribly impressed w/ Ron as a
> > male.
> >
> Is she terribly impressed with any other male? She seems to be
> indifferent to any male (even Victor) -- no giggling, sighing etc.
First, as someone else already pointed out, giggling and sighing are
not compulsory when a girl is attracted to someone. Some girls can do
exactly the opposite, superbly ignoring the boy they are attracted to
(I had my period when I was doing that. A perfectly unsuccessful
method, I might add :-)
Second : I think you have a major point here, the main flaw in my R/H
SHIP :-) : Hermione isn't interested in having a full-fledged
boyfriend yet, not even Ron. She had an almost-compulsory crush on
the cute teacher when she was 12. She let Viktor date her and take
her out to the ball. But she's not interested in getting involved in
a true romance yet. I don't think it's a matter of being impressed, I
think it's more a matter of not being interested enough in the game
yet to find a partner.
And for that matter, I don't think Ron is ready either. Personally,
I'm not in too much of a hurry to see those 2 together, because I'm
convinced they would blow the whole thing up on their first date
together, and they would avoid each other for the next 5 years or so.
> It IS often Ron who's first to defend Hermione...but it's also
> Harry who's OFTEN first to do so.
I don't think this one is going to take us anywhere. Ron and Harry
are both Hermione's friends, so they both defend her when she's
attacked. Maybe, *maybe*, I could argue that sometimes Ron's defense
exhibits a particular *quality*, that would seem to indicate that his
motives might be not just friendship. But the clues are usually way
too elusive.
> "Kreacher's pale eyes widened and he muttered faster and more
> furiously than ever.
> 'The Mudblood is talking to Kreacher as though she is my friend, if
> Kreacher's mistress saw him in such company, oh, what would she
> say - '
> 'Don't call her a Mudblood!' said Ron and Ginny together, very
> angrily."
You know, I'm wondering if the Weasleys' systematic defense of
Hermione when she's called a Mudblood doesn't simply have to do with
their being pure-blood. It might be that they DO pity Hermione for
being Muggle-born, even though they would never admit openly that
being a Muggle is nowhere as fun, in their idea, than being a wizard.
Arthur Weasley seems to be the only one in his family to think that
the Muggle world is interesting and worth knowing. When he tries to
get his wound stitched up, Ron talks dismissively of his attempt. He
obviously considers any muggle technique to be automatically inferior
to wizard techniques. So I think it is quite possible that the
Weasleys defend Hermione so loudly because deep inside themselves
they pity her and don't want her to realize how sad it is to be
Muggle-born. And of course because they are ashamed of those
feelings : how much more complicated can the human heart get :-) ?
> > It's quite clear to me that Hermione has already set her sights
> > on Harry - he will have to betray / deeply disappoint / greatly
> > offend her (maybe all three) in order to drive her away.
> >
> May I ask why? Are there any proofs for that in canon.
I have to agree : I never had the impression that Hermione had
anything but strong feelings of friendship towards Harry. In fact, if
there's anyone she's acting like a sister toward, that's Harry, but a
little sister : sure brother, I'll help you if you need me, but I
don't like it when you take my love for you for granted and start
venting your frustration on me.
Just my feelings though.
> > [Harry] knows [Hermione], likes her, admires her, respects her,
> > trusts her absolutely, and depends on her.
Humph... He doesn't know her so well. He knows what she tells him,
but no more. What does he know of her dreams, her hopes, her
ambitions, her pains, and even her life ? Pretty much nothing.
Likes her, okay. Even though sometimes...
Admires her ? When she pulls a mighty magical trick, yes maybe, but
otherwise rarely. He despises her love for studying, he makes fun of
her homework planning or House-Elves liberation obsessions, and he
doesn't think highly of her rule-abiding and authority-respecting
personality.
Respects her, trusts her absolutely ?? Big proof of that he gave when
he refused to even consider she might be right about Sirius. He gave
in to the attempt to contact him first only because he couldn't
figure out a way to go to London on his own right away. Otherwise you
can bet he would just have gone and done it his way. She's almost
always been right before, but still he doesn't trust her opinion and
sound reasoning.
Depends on her : yep, when he needs her. Otherwise, he doesn't care
about letting her down.
I mean, honestly, I've seen that kind of relationships too often, and
gone through them myself, not to recognize it right away : yes I like
you enough, and I need your brains to help me out of troubles, but
don't you dare contradicting me or giving me unwanted advice !
But then, Harry doesn't trust *anyone*. Not his friends, not DD, not
Sirius. When those people try to tell him differently than he thinks,
he refuses to listen to them. He always knows better. He's a hurting
secretive 15-year-old boy : that's a pain but not his fault...
> > It may be that Harry only discovers his true feelings for
> > Hermione when he is forced to contemplate life without her. If
> > forced to choose between her and Ron, I'm afraid it's 'so long,
> > Ron'.
> >
> That's pure speculations.
And it goes against cannon. In GoF, he states quite clearly that it's
nowhere as fun when he has to hang out with Hermione rather than with
Ron.
> > Luna and Harry? Not a chance. She and Ron have a much more
> > similar sort of vibe, she's much more interested in Ron than in
> > Harry, and so far her interactions w/ Harry have been of
> > a 'female Ron' sort: comradely, companionable, off-hand, very
> > much "guy-style". MUCH more Ron's type (at least, he's a sitting
> > duck for her). In Book 6, I expect to see her making even more
> > effort to catch Ron's attention, in part by simply inserting
> > herself into the group;
>
> Most readers would agree with that.
I don't !
First, I don't think Luna is the kind to try and catch a guy's
attention. If she liked one of them, she would tell him straight as
it is.
Second : am I the only one who's noticed that she gives the creeps to
Ron ? Ron desperately wants to be popular or at least not to stick
out too much : there's NO WAY he'd accept to go out with someone like
Luna. Not for a few years anyway, which is the period we're
discussing here. Harry, on the other hand, doesn't care about being
popular anymore. He wants support and understanding, and Luna might
just be able to give him exactly that.
Third : I don't understand how Luna and Ron can be considered to be
similar. Luna doesn't care about other people's opinions, she doesn't
care about what is socially acceptable, she's not afraid of speaking
her own mind, and she doesn't care about alienating her
acquaintances. Ron wants to fit in, he will eat his words the second
he sees everyone else might disagree with him, he doesn't care about
having personal opinions, and he wants to fit in (did I already
mention that ?). They couldn't be more dissimilar.
Now, just to make it clear : I expressed only MY feelings here, based
as much as possible on the books. But most of you have different
opinions and feelings, and this is GREAT and FUN !!
Del
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