LV never loved anyone

[Catlady (Rita Prince Winston)]

No: HPFGUIDX 110306

--- In HPforGrownups at yahoogroups.com, "Misty" <misty_december at y...>
wrote in http://groups.yahoo.com/group/HPforGrownups/message/110303 :

> Both grew up without love.  Tom hated the orphanage he was in, so I 
> doubt he received much affection there; and orphanages in 
> the 1930's/1940's were sometimes abusive. I am not a psychologist, 
> but I know that there are cases where certain children, not bonding 
> at an early age, lose that ability, and as a result never really 
> learn to love others. Sometimes, these kids can even become
> psychotic or have major personality disorders where they have no 
> empathy toward others and even despise others. I wondered why Harry 
> wasn't like that, but I think it might have to do with the 
> personality type as it is not a universal thing.  

Yes. My theory is I think Lily was able, with her magic, to put an
image of herself in her baby's mind, that would be like an 'imaginary
mum' (by analogy with 'imaginary friend') who would cuddle Harry and
tell him that he's a good kid who doesn't deserve Dursley abuse and
tell him about how decent people behave, thus being that one caring
adult said to be necessary to even a 'resilient' child's survival of
serious abuse... I kind of think Lily used her last magic to put this
image in his head intentionally, instead of using her last magic in
one last attempt to escape Voldemort. That is the heroic self-sacrifce
that canon credits her, accepting her own death because it was more
important to her to give this protection (from abusive Dursleys) of
her love. I don't know why she would do that if she really believed
that he would be dead seconds after she was, so I am left sympathetic
to the theories that Harry survived AK because of some magic that had
been done on him (presumably by Lily) or that he had been born with. 

When Harry resisted the Imperius Curse, the Curse's Moody-voice in his
head told him to jump up on the desk, and "another voice had awoken in
the back of his brain. Stupid to do, really, said the voice." I
believe that that other voice is what's left of the image-Lily after
all these years; she doesn't appear often, she appears as Harry's
voice instead of her own, but she still is caring for Harry -- and
still has free will.

In addition, so far we've always seen Harry wondering and trying to
find out about his father, and not about his mother. Some say that's a
plot device because JKR is saving some big surprise about Lily, and
some say it's normal because Harry is 11 to 14 so far, puberty and
adolescence, and much more concerned about a male image to identify
with. But *I* say that he doesn't search so much for Lily because,
unknown to himself, he already has her with him.