LV never loved anyone

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No: HPFGUIDX 110324

> Misty
> > I am not a psychologist, 
> > > but I know that there are cases where certain children, not 
> bonding at an early age, lose that ability, and as a result never 
> really learn to love others.  
> I wondered why Harry wasn't like that, but I think it might have 
to 
> do with the personality type as it is not a universal thing.  
> > 
> 
> Valky:
> I have heard of this phenomenon too. I was under an impression 
> however that it more specifically applied to children who had no 
> bonding experience in frailest infancy during the first year of 
> their lives and ones who were openly or directly rejected by one 
or 
> both of their blood parents. Clearly this does not apply to Harry. 
> as he was in a loving home for 15 months prioir to his parents 
> death. Of course LV's mother may also have provided a loving home 
> for his first year of life and equally Harry's personality and 
> strength of character surely plays a part. 
> 
> Therefore I am not saying I disagree, Its all good... :D

Now Andromeda:
  I think it is actually a pretty common phenomenon, to some extent, 
for young children (not just infants) in orphanages.  I was just 
recently reading an article geared at people who have or want to 
adopt children from other countries, and one of the points was that 
many children from orphanages have a difficult time learning to love 
and bond, even when adopted by loving and supportive parents.  They 
certainly can and do, but it takes much effort and patience.  LV's 
mother lived "just long enough to name him" (right?) and then it was 
presumably off to the orphanage as an infant.  The article said that 
even modern orphanages, clean and decent-looking places, cannot 
escape the fact that children are being raised by those who don't 
love them.  Riddle's orphanage was undoubtedly not a very nice 
place.  
Unlike Riddle, Harry had 15 months of parental love before being 
taken away.  Having a 14-month-old myself, I like to think that all 
the love poured in that short time will make a difference in her 
life!  I don't necessarily agree with the idea that Lily directly 
somehow put some of herself into Harry (ie, the little voice), but I 
think her love for her baby may have helped shape him even after she 
was gone. 

BUt I do agree that ultimately, choice is the underlying reason for 
the difference between LV and HP.  They were both raised in 
siuations where they were unloved, but Harry chose to give love a 
try and LV decided it was a weakness.  After all, most people who 
grow up in orphanages don't end up being evil overlords, even if 
they may have some trouble with relationships.