Theoretical boundaries

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No: HPFGUIDX 120399


--- In HPforGrownups at yahoogroups.com, "lupinlore" <bob.oliver at c...> wrote:
> 
> Yes, we do see these things differently.  And it is not, in our view, 
> either ill-mannered or unnecessary, or we would not do it.  I am 
> truly sorry you find it offensive, but then all I can do is suggest 
> that you avoid such conversations.  Perhaps we do have different 
> modes of public discourse than were common some years ago.  Once 
> again, if that makes you uncomfortable, I'm sorry, but we aren't 
> going to stop, and the best I can say is that if it upsets you that 
> terribly you would be well advised to avoid it.  
> 

Your expression of consideration is appreciated.
No, I don't generally find public displays of emotion offensive so 
much as somewhat excessive and sometimes inappropriate.

Yes, I  was brought up to don the stiff-upper lip; unfashionable now,
but not without its virtues and benefits. I  was one of the millions
appalled by the emotional overdosing at the death of Princess Diana.
It seemed designed to attract attention to those mourning rather
than showing respect for the dead. Grieving is done in private.
You cry alone or with family - not as a public spectacle.
Old-fashioned values again.

And yes, I do realise that this is not the way many react now.
Real emotions are expressed more openly these days.
However, I'm still unable to transfer real grief, concern, emotion onto
unreal people. Sorry, I just can't do it, nor comprehend how someone
else can. Every time a poster gets emotionally fraught over the way
Harry's treated I feel that they've missed the important point - he ain't 
real. It never happened. Snape has never actually been sarcastic;  the
Dursleys have never locked someone named Harry Potter under the 
stairs - it's make-believe. One might as well burst into tears at the death
of Tinkerbell. OK if you're 7, but not once you pass the age of consent.
It doesn't match my definition of adult perspectives.

Maybe I'm out of step. Quite possible.
But I'm unlikely to change at this late stage.
Just list me as an irredeemable oldie.

Kneasy