Who's really in charge?
scoutmom21113
navarro198 at hotmail.com
Fri Feb 6 02:40:26 UTC 2004
No: HPFGUIDX 90350
"Bridget" wrote:
> Hi all! I've been re-reading the series, paying special attention
to
> the parts where Harry is at the Dursleys', as it seems to me that
> Harry thinks Vernon is in charge. Vernon is the one who punishes
and
> threatens him etc. But if you read closely, it's fairly obvious
that
> Petunia is the one making the rules, Vernon is just the one
> enforcing them. <snip> We know Petunia knows more then she
> let on to knowing can the same be said of Vernon? Any ideas, other
> examples, and comments are much appreciated!
Carol:
I think that Vernon and Petunia are operating as a team in their
suppression of Harry but with different motivations. <snip a very
interesting post>
I have no idea what's going to happen with the Dursleys in the next
two books, but I think it's time for Petunia to level with Vernon and
tell him what's really going on. He needs to understand that there's
more at stake than concealing from the world that they have an
"abnormal" nephew or connections with the WW he wants to believe does
not exist. <snip>
Bookworm:
This thread really got me to stop and think about Vernon and Petunia
as a couple. In the opening scene Bridget described (up thread),
Vernon is thinking about Petunia's reaction. Bridget ascribed this
to Petunia having the dominate role. Certainly she did after the
dementors and the howler. But the quote Bridget gave when Vernon
told Harry to listen to his aunt sounded more like tag-team
parenting to me. Statements like that are often heard in our house:
Father/Mother: "Get ready for bed."
Daughter: (whine, excuses, stalling...)
Father/Mother: "Get ready for bed, now."
Daughter: (more stalling...)
Mother/Father: "You heard what your Father/Mother said. You have 30
seconds to start running the bath."
Daughter: (stomp, stomp...) (Did I mention she is a pre-teen? <g>)
As Carol mentioned, Vernon and Petunia operate as a team. Sometimes
one or the other takes the more prominent role, depending on the
circumstances. In the scene where Petunia found out that Mrs. Figg
has broken her leg and can't take Harry while the Dursleys take
Dudley and Piers to the zoo, they are both making suggestions and
objections to each other. In CoS, when they are getting ready for
the Masons' arrival, Vernon is the one in charge of setting the
stage. And when the letter from the Ministry arrived, it was Vernon
who locked Harry in his room.
>From our family's experience, when there are issues with the
teachers, my husband usually steps back because I'm the one with
experience working in the schools. So when magic is involved it
seems that Vernon steps back and lets Petunia deal with it because
of her family's history with magic.
Unfortunately, while I agree with Carol that Petunia *should* tell
Vernon what she knows, I don't think she will. Neither do I think
that Vernon wants to know about it. IMO, the pattern of secrecy
about anything dealing with magic will continue, at least for the
near future, until Dudley is in danger again.
Ravenclaw Bookworm
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