R & H - More in common than meets the eye (was Hermione's reaction)

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No: HPFGUIDX 105796

--- In HPforGrownups at yahoogroups.com, "paul_terzis" 
<paul_terzis at y...> wrote:
> >   
> > 
> > aboutthe1910s wrote:
> > I think my biggest issue with Harry and Hermione getting together 
> is
> > the fact that, while we can argue all night about who, if anyone,
> > Hermione is attracted to, Ron clearly is attracted to Hermione.  
> Now
> > Ron has already had some jealousy issues with Harry, which came 
to 
> a
> > boiling point in GoF, but, while Ron has realized that these 
issues
> > are not worth not being friends with Harry over, I don't think 
Ron 
> has
> > necessarily gotten entirely over them.  
> > 
> > If Harry and Hermione get together, I think it would be just too 
> cruel
> > --on both JK's part and Harry's.  I wouldn't blame Ron a bit for 
> being
> >  hideously pissed off at Harry, and I would hope that both Harry 
> and JK 
> > value the friendship between Harry and Ron more than that.  Even 
> if Ron 
> > could get over it, it would destroy the balance in their 
> relationship--
> > Harry is the centerpiece in their relationship as far as he is 
the 
> leader 
> > and they are his sidekicks.  If Hermione becomes something more 
> than Ron 
> > to Harry, it might not make Ron mean less absolutely speaking, 
but 
> it
> > will relatively.  Ron just doesn't deserve to be made to feel any 
> more
> > secondary and overlookable than he already has.
> > 
> > Besides, Ron is capable of standing up to Hermione's bossiness in 
a
> > way that Harry has never prooved himself capable--he's too 
passive 
> for
> > Hermione.  I imagine that Harry would be something of whipped 
> puppy in
> > a more than friends relationship with Hermione.
> > 
> > a
> 
>  I can't believe my eyes. Your post has two main points:
> 1) In the H/Hr scenario Ron character is certainly mistreated from 
> JKR and HP.
> 
> reply: In love and war there are no restraints. If I were HP and I 
> had found my soulmate, named Hr, I would fight for her love even 
> with the devil himself. Of course in this situation where all are 
> best friends the best working scenario is the direct confrontation. 
> Face to face all three of them until the final resolution of the 
> case. But to expect HP  to back down and to turn his back to 
> happiness which is his only desire throughout his hard life,  
> without a fight is out of the question. This is also an insult to 
> Ron character because he wins Hr only because HP backs down and not 
> because he is better than HP in the eyes of Hr.   
> 
> 
> 2) HP is a weak, subservient and without will person. 
> 
> reply:Do you honestly believe that? HP chooses carefully his 
battles 
> with Hr. If he doesn't have any interest to the subject in matter 
he 
> remains cool and calm but when he is resolved to do something, I 
> think he can put the fear of God to the bossy Hr.
> 
> Cheers,
> Paul

I agree with you, Paul. As a H/Hr who's a HUGE Ron fan, I find that 
the reasons given above for H/Hr NOT to happen are very unfair to Ron.

Yes, Ron has shown jealousy toward Harry before. But Ron has also 
grown as a person. Do you think he'll honestly feel jealous of the 
Boy-Who-Lived when he has seen what being Harry Potter is? Specially 
after Sirius death, I believe that Ron would want his best friend to 
be happy, even at the expense of his own happiness.

I believe that Ron is insecure (as we all were when we were 
teenagers), but he's not a little boy who needs to have his ego 
stroke by his two best friends. If H/Hr did happen and Ron indeed had 
feelings for Hr, he will be heartbroken... and he will be angry... 
and then he will learn, grow up from the experience, and continue 
being the wonderful friend he has always been.

Just my two knuts,
Anasazi