[HPforGrownups] Hermione's Reaction to... Was: Re: Harry's first Kiss (is it a smoke screen?)

[Sherry Gomes]

No: HPFGUIDX 106187

GEO wrote :
> Point of the matter is compared to Harry, he has nothing to complain 
> about. 

Del replies :
Point of the matter is, in your logic, compared to Harry, *nobody* has
nothing to complain about. I don't think like that.



Sherry now

I'm astonished to hear so many people say Ron has nothing to complain about
compared to Harry.  Each person is living their own life, their own
existence.  Compared to the next person, it might seem their struggles or
problems are small, but the next person is not living it.  I am always
amazed, for instance, that adults can find the problems of little children
so unimportant.  Maybe, to a grown up with responsibilities, A little girl's
broken doll is not important, but to that little girl, it is her whole world
and dreadfully tragic.  Her feelings aren't any less valuable than the
adult's feelings, just because the doll isn't important to the adult.  

Occasionally I meet people who tell me that their problems are nothing
compared to mine, because I have disabilities.  I always think that's nuts.
I'm not in their shoes, and I don't think their feelings, hurts or
disappointments mean nothing, just because I am disabled.  In fact, I think
my disability is such a small problem, though it seems large to many others.
Yet, I have problems, (non disability related) and I resent someone telling
me my grief, heartbreak or emotional pain isn't as important as theirs,
because it isn't as serious a situation or I haven't experienced it as long
as they have.  I recently had a friend do this, and it baffles me, since I
have always stood by her through her problems, and expected my friend to
support me through mine.  Each person is in our own space, experiencing our
own feelings, and nobody's are more important or less than anyone else's.  

Harry would be an arrogant and very distasteful person, if he cared so
little for his friends as to think their problems weren't important next to
his.  In fact, in OOTP, the times I really disliked Harry were when he was
nasty and hateful about and toward his friends.  As the book moved on and he
began to appreciate them and treat them fairly and like partners again, I
started to feel much better about Harry.  Otherwise, he's about on the
emotional level of Voldemort, if he continued to think other people's
feelings have no value.

Sherry G