Ron's "poor me" syndrome.

[delwynmarch]

No: HPFGUIDX 106245

mayeaux45 wrote:
> NEVER once have Arthur or Molly completely disowned one of their 
> children because they are not up to some high standard.

Del replies :
I never said they did. I just said that when Molly realised that Ron
was not going to be the Next Perfect Weasley Boy, she stopped
*believing* in him. He did all those great things, he didn't cause
anywhere as much trouble as the Twins, but just because he didn't get
good grades, she lost all hope for him. She didn't hope, not even a
little, that maybe he would be made Prefect. I find that sad to see a
mother who has given up so completely on her kid. 

Mayeaux wrote :
> If you have ever met a poor family or been poor yourself it is hard. 
> Let me better explain myself.  Being poor *sucks* (for lack of a 
> better word)!  If having money is something you don't have then 
> being educated is the next best thing.

Del replies :
We were poor when I grew up, and yes my mom put a lot of emphasis on
education. But even more than that, she tried to make us feel good and
capable, because she knew that as long as we believed in ourselves, we
would manage somehow. My little sister was nowhere as good
academically as I was, but my mom *never* gave up on her. She
supported her in her various entreprises, she made sure she found
fulfillment in other areas of her life. Sure, she did insist that she
obtains her high school diploma, but she was very happy that my sister
scraped a pass, while she had expected much more from me. And as for
our post-school lives, she *never* tried to force us in a particular
way. She loved us and so she wanted us to be happy more than anything
else, even if that meant having a "low" job, as long as we liked it.
Molly kept pushing the twins to do more than good in their studies,
even when it was *obvious* that they didn't care, and she kept
pestering them about getting into the Ministry, even when they'd
already decided what they wanted to do with their life.

Mayeaux wrote :
> Molly and Arthur only want their children to succeed and work hard 
> because they want them to make something of themselves and get away 
> from the *Weasley* stigma.

Del replies :
But sadly, when one of their sons does *exactly* that, they crush him.
What Arthur did to Percy was cruel, and I don't blame Percy in the
least for losing his mind.

Mayeaux wrote :
> Point is...Ron is loved in all aspects.  

Del replies :
But just as we've argued a few days ago about Harry and the support he
receives but can't feel, I'm afraid Ron doesn't really *feel* the love
his parents have for him, because they don't show it to him in ways he
can recognise.

Del, who loves Molly nonetheless