[HPforGrownups] Mothers and Fathers (was: Re: James gave his life, why no protection from him?)

[garybec101 at comcast.net]

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> > Becki's thought;
> >
> > Perhaps it goes to the saying that there is no stronger love than a
> > mother has for her child.
>
> Iggy here:
>
> I dunno... I've always had a problem with that statement... especially
since
> becoming a father. Love a father shows may come across differently than
> that a mother shows, but I don't feel that it's any less than a mothers by
> so much as a single mote. Society teaches us that fathers are supposed to
> show love in the "paternal" form, and mothers show it in the "maernal"
form.
> The paternal form of love is often expressed in providing for, caring for,
> and protecting. The maternal form is often depicted as nurturing,
feeding,
> and soothing. While they may take separate paths, I do not see how a
> mother's love is greater than a father's. (And yes, some may argue that
it
> is because a baby resides within its mother's body for nine months... but
> that is a matter of biology, and not emotion. There are many instances in
> the animal kingdom where a baby is abandoned to fend on its own by the
> mother without a second thought... and other instances where the father is
> the one that cares for the eggs and the infants... penguins and seahorses
> come most readily to mind there.)
>

Iggy here (again):


of a "crazed/cold revenge" angle.)



Iggy here (again):

I should also point out that I would give up my life in a heartbeat to
protect my daughter as well. This seems to mean less in most cultures
because men are EXPECTED to give their lives for family, country, and their
faith/religion. Women aren't expected to, so it's seen as a much more noble
sacrifice. That's not to downplay the importance of a mother's sacrifice,
but merely to point out that a man's is downplayed because society expects
it... even though it's still just as strong a sacrifice.
Becki's Back
Hi Iggy;
I am sorry I had to snip so much of your post, I only wanted to address this one topic.
First I want you to know that I didn't mean to imply that a Mothers love is better or deeper than a Fathers love for a child.  Like you said, I do believe it is different.  
Perhaps the ancient magic that Dumbledore talks about is in a more literal sense, blood.  Harry is safe where his mothers blood dwells.  A baby gets it's DNA 1/2 from Mom and 1/2 from Dad, however, while the baby is in the womb, her blood is literally running through his veins. Could that be why even though James made the same sacrifice, it is Lily's that is the sealer.

Becki

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