[HPforGrownups] Re: SHIP Hermione & Ron /

[Miller, Gina (JIS)]

No: HPFGUIDX 102691


And anyway, the strongest reason I don't want to see Harry with
Hermione is because Harry is not nice enough to Hermione.
1. In OoP, he shouts at her at least 3 times even though she's in the
right (once for not having written in more details to him over the
holidays, once because he thinks her DA idea is ludicrous, and once
because she refuses to admit right away that he's truly seen Sirius
being tortured). And she's too scared to fight back, which is not a
sign of a good healthy relationship.
2. Even when he doesn't shout, he's way too often scaring Hermione
into agreeing with him, even when he's wrong, like when he forces her
to say that Hagrid is a good teacher. I mean, what kind of friend
glowers at you to force you to say what they want !? How much respect
does Harry have for Hermione if he won't let her contradict him ?? And
how much does she *trust* him, if she can't get herself to speak her
mind ? She's clearly afraid of how he might react at those times, and
I don't think that fear can be a component of a loving relationship.
That wouldn't bode well for any romantic relationship they might
develop : Hermione having to agree to whatever Harry feels is
important... It's bordering on emotional abuse IMO.
3. More generally, he doesn't listen much to her counsel, he doesn't
care much about what interests her, and so on.
I love Hermione, and I just don't see what *she* would get out of a
relationship with Harry... other than troubles, that is !

Not that a relationship with Ron would be heaven, mind you. The way
they are always fighting... But at least, Hermione always feels *free*
to be *herself* with Ron, she nevers cowers into agreeing with him.
Their relationship might be much bumpier than her relationship with
Harry, but in my opinion it's MUCH healthier : neither controls the other.

Del, who thinks one of the reasons Ginny, Neville and Luna had to go
to the DoM could be the Veil : all three of them, along with Harry,
were entranced by it.


Gina responding :
      Sorry, but if you are saying Hermione doesn't need to be with Harry
because he is not nice to her and doesn't let her have an opinion - you have
just contradicted yourself! Hermione does the SAME THING to Ron! Every time
he has an idea she either blows it off completely or tells him in one way or
another how dumb he sounds where on the other hand she takes everything
Harry says into consideration. So if what you say is true R/Hr can NEVER be
together because Hermione does not respect his ideas or intelligence at all
and is not very nice in expressing it.
 Gina





 


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