SHIP: Harry and Hermione

[pippin_999]

No: HPFGUIDX 92329

 
 Samnanya:
 >>(re Pippin)
 I never thought I would disagree with Pippin because her 
theories,  whether ultimately right or wrong, are always well 
thought out. <<

Thank you ! :-)

Samnanya:
>> But this time..... 
 I am curious what you mean by "I think Harry would be happier 
in a more equal relationship, myself."?  More equal than what? 
There is a balance in Harry/Hermione that is evident in all of their 
exploits.  Harry respects her opinion, which is more based on 
her Ravenclaw  tendencies than her Griffindor ones.  She cares 
for Harry greatly -  much more than as a friend, and the feeling is 
mutual. When she is  injured at the MOM Harry is nearly 
paralyzed with brainlock. His powerful response when Neville 
says that he feels a pulse is both intensely physical and 
emotional. <<

Pippin:
 Unequal doesn't have to  mean exploitative. Their relationship is 
obviously equally beneficial to both--but she has an influence 
over him that he doesn't have over her.

Harry identifies his interior nagger, his superego if you will, as 
Hermione. And he needs someone to personify that voice for 
him, since he only briefly had a loving parent in his life. That's 
fine, as long as he and Hermione aren't romantically involved, or 
trying to be.    But while it's necessary for  people  to form an 
emotional connection to  parent surrogates like  coaches and  
therapists  and *very* easy to identify those feelings with 
romantic love,  it's usually a bad idea to act on that basis.

The roles are  in conflict. The parent, the coach, the therapist, 
must ultimately let go, whereas the goal of lovers is to grow ever 
closer. 

Look at the way Harry  lies  to avoid Hermione's nagging.  If he 
thought of himself as her equal, he wouldn't need to do that. He'd 
just tell her to shut up already, which is, you'll note, what Ron 
does whenever he's had enough. 

Pippin