[HPforGrownups] Re: SHIP: Harry and Hermione

[BrwNeil at aol.com]

No: HPFGUIDX 92335

In a message dated 3/6/2004 1:19:39 PM Eastern Standard Time, 
foxmoth at qnet.com writes:
Harry identifies his interior nagger, his superego if you will, as 
Hermione. And he needs someone to personify that voice for 
him, since he only briefly had a loving parent in his life. That's 
fine, as long as he and Hermione aren't romantically involved, or 
trying to be.    But while it's necessary for  people  to form an 
emotional connection to  parent surrogates like  coaches and  
therapists  and *very* easy to identify those feelings with 
romantic love,  it's usually a bad idea to act on that basis.

The roles are  in conflict. The parent, the coach, the therapist, 
must ultimately let go, whereas the goal of lovers is to grow ever 
closer. 

Look at the way Harry  lies  to avoid Hermione's nagging.  If he 
thought of himself as her equal, he wouldn't need to do that. He'd 
just tell her to shut up already, which is, you'll note, what Ron 
does whenever he's had enough. 

Pippin
Hermione helpfully nags both Ron and Harry.  The difference in my mind is 
that Harry values Hermione's opinion and is often torn in his decision making 
because of it.  After PotP, he will even value her opinion more. 

Ron on the other hand is a stubborn git who can never see any view point 
other than his own.  Ron is usually wrong, but always considers himself right. 

I don't understand how Ron's ability to tell Hermione to shut up makes them 
better material for being a couple.  They have two different mind sets.  Ron 
envies rich families with elves, Hermione wants them free.  Like oil and water, 
they can be shaken together, but will eventually separated. 

If arguing and fighting makes for a good relationship, then Rowling has erred 
by not bringing Malfoy and Hermione together.

Neil 


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