[HPforGrownups] SHIP: Holding the Tiger's Tail

[Susanne]

No: HPFGUIDX 92903



Hi,

Saturday, March 13, 2004, 7:34:37 AM, Jim wrote:

> I think Ron's an ordinary guy  a good ordinary guy  who wants a wife
> he can come home to, talk to, and bring up a family with.  That's
> perfectly fine if that's what his wife wants, too, but that's not for
> Hermione.

Uh, frankly, how do you know that's what Ron wants or needs?

After all, he *is* attracted to Hermione, who has none of
those qualities you listed.

And adressing what a couple of people said about Ron just
being too hurtful to Hermione:

Hermione gives back just as good, and sometimes even starts
an argument.
She isn't the poor little girl, who hides crying in the
bathroom anymore, and even when she did in book one, it had
a lot to do with her own behavior.
Her way of always correcting people, and spouting her
superior knowledge, whether asked or not, was not endearing.

Hermione has her heart in the right place, but her actions
and what she says aren't always the best choice, and the
same is the case for Ron.

For some reason, Hermione is seen by many readers as this
perfect person, who "deserves" the "best" guy, which is, of
course, Harry.

But I don't see Harry's and Hermione's relationship as any
more ideal than Ron and Hermione's.

A lot seems to depend on how the reader feels about
relationships. If they see verbal sparring as all around
negative, and have never seen that it can be just as loving
as the quiet, on the surface always getting along,
relationships.
Verbal sparring can be a lot of fun, if it is tempered by
love, and Ron seems to be learning to curb things more,
already, while Hermione is now in her more nasty phase.
We'll see how things develop in the next book, hopefully not
too far in the future.

In a relationship, you need to be able to talk things out,
instead of avoiding an issue, or the other person, in order
to keep things nice and not argue.
There are too many times, where Harry does this, while
Hermione never hesitates to say what she thinks.

This could turn very volatile in a romantic relationship,
once the rose colored glasses come off.
If you never mention your discontent with certain habits, it
suddenly all comes exploding out at the first opportunity.

So, no, I don't think Harry and Hermione are soulmates, and
ideal partners for a lasting relationship.

As long as Harry does what Hermione wants, yes, but that's
only good for Hermione, and not for Harry.
He'd probably retreat more and more, until things get too
much for him altogether.

Either way, wether H/Hr or R/Hr, they'd have to work on
their relationship.

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