[HPforGrownups] Re: Clues for SHIPS

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No: HPFGUIDX 98692

Jim Ferer wrote:

>
> I've often said that the differences between Hermione and Harry
> compliment each other - I used the words yin and yang.
> 
> Hermione, deliberate, thinking, deep; Harry, instinctive, acting,
> emotional.  Harry needs someone who restrains him when he goes off the
> deep end, which he is wont to do, and Hermione needs someone that
> gives her more of a purpose and draws her away from bossiness. She
> needs someone who needs what she's got.  They balance each other, or
> so I always have thought.

You're right here.  So much of this speculation depends on what each 
individual thinks is the appropriate or ideal way to choose a mate.  I 
agree that Hermione acts as a balance but I would ask if one should be 
doing that in an interior fashion (Harry balances himself) or if he 
seeks this balance outside of himself (with Hermione).
> 
> To be honest, Harry's not going to be an easy mate for anybody.  He's
> going to be seriously bent by the War, and anybody could respectably
> argue he's going to be damaged goods not suitable for anyone.

I wouldn't say damaged goods.  People go thru war experiences yet manage 
to stay emotionally intact--we could name quite a few political 
individuals in America at the moment who seem to have gone thru fairly 
horrendous experiences yet have gone on to long marriages, family and 
service to the country.  I'm thinking John McCain at the moment.

And that's one reason why I vote for Ginny.  She has been touched 
"intimately" by LV hence is the only other person who shares this unique 
experience with Harry.  Yet she's definitely "the other".  Hermione for 
me is detached involvement.  She loves him but as a friend, there's no 
spark no frisson.

Of course there's currently no frisson with anyone now that, thankfully, 
Cho is off the emotional canvas.

The outcome is what JKR instinctively believes makes a good pairing, as 
personal a decision for her as for us.  Unless we wind up with Harry 
Potter 10--The Travails of Divorce Court.  Daily Prophet headline 
"Voldemort Defeater sued for child support!  He claims 'I have no gold!'"

Jem