[HPforGrownups] Re: Harry's questions about his parents (was Harry, Hermione, Sirius, and the Dream, 2-way mirror)

[Juli]

No: HPFGUIDX 117437


 
> Juli wrote (on an earlier post):
> "...If I was Harry I would have gotten as much 
> information as possible about my parents and my 
> grand-parents, but he didn't. <snip>
> 
> Beatnik: (edited)
> Another possible reason that Harry doesn't ask
> questions about his family, is that it's painful 
> to hear about the parents and grandparents that 
> he's never going to have, especially when he can't 
> change their fates.  Harry is an action guy - it
> would be very hard for him to learn about something
> he cannot change. Consciously, or subconsciously, 
> he knows this, and so doesn't ask the questions in 
> the first place.

Juli Again: I don't think it's painful to Harry to
hear about his family, everytime someone mentions
James or Lily he pays a lot of atention and is usually
happy abou it (except on OoP when Moody shows him the
picture about the original Order), besides he spends
hours and hours in front of the mirror of Erised just
looking at his parents.

Madga wrote: (edited)
>Quite definitely weird.  I completely agree with
>you.  And considering all the times Sirius was alone
>with Buckbeak (and obviously bummed out if not
>clinically depressed) when Harry could have been with
>him hearing about his parents and his family....it's
>so frustrating.  

I agree with you when you say Sirius may be clinically
depressed, I'm talking from experience here, when I
was depressed I spent most of my time alone in my
room, just looking at the ceiling, that's exactly what
Sirius does, and does anyone care? Nope. Molly says
it's melancholy, and Harry just doesn't seem to care,
or maybe he does but he never tries anything to
lighten up his godfather's mood. 

Ms. Luna wrote: (edited)
>I think that maybe Harry's reasoning for not 
>finding out about his parents at every opportunity 
>is he has an idealized picture in his mind of his
>family, and is afraid to "mess it up, somehow
>"disrespecting" his internal view.  

Here I go again: Maybe he doesn't want to feel like he
felt after the pensive scene, he felt his father was a
stranger, he's always heard people say how great he
was, and by the way he treated Snape he seemed just
mean, but then he did ask questions, maybe for the
first time, and once Sirius and Lupin reassured him
his father was a great guy he felt at peace again and
never again asked. Mmmm, he likes so much the idea of
perfect parents, he doesn't want to learn more in
order not to ruin it. 

Alla wrote:
>She could get away with it in the beginning with
>"Dursleys forbade him ot ask questions, so as abused 
>kid he subconsciously decided that he would be better 
>off not asking" or something like that, but he is 
>fifteen now and had been in Hogwarts for five years.
>
>I don't think Harry is dumb, but he'd better start
>asking in the HBP. :o)

I agree with you, Harry no longer acts as an abused
child, he's grown up, he's lived for 5 years at a
world where almost everyone treats him right, and many
people knew his parents. DD for one has always been
willing to answer his questions (except "why did LV
tried to kill me?" at PS/SS). 

Alla again on another post:
>I welcome any explanation which helps me not to think
>of Harrry as stupid. :o) And of course the main reason
>is plot dictated.

Harry does act a little stupidly sometimes, not asking
questions is maybe the dumbest one. I just don't think
the abused kid theory is good enough, at least not
anymore. As we are just spectors on JKR's story we
only know what she wants us to know, maybe he's asked
questions  and they just haven't been included on the
books, why? if we knew everything the next books
wouldn't be so interesting and this group wouldn't
exist ;)

Juli, saying good-bye after answering a lot of posts.