Harry at the Dursleys
pippin_999
foxmoth at qnet.com
Mon Nov 22 01:40:29 UTC 2004
No: HPFGUIDX 118308
--- In HPforGrownups at yahoogroups.com, "dumbledore11214"
> Pippin:
>
> snip.
>
> > Granted it would have been better for Harry to grow up in a
safe, stable, loving home. But Dumbledore knew that if he
found such a home in the wizarding world, the love and stability
would last only as long as the safety did.
>
> Alla:
>
> Some will argue that some love and stability is better than
nothing at all.<
Pippin:
"Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" is a
very mature way to look at things, I agree. But we are talking
about a young child, and I 'm not sure children look at things that
way. At least Harry was only orphaned once. Who knows how
many caregivers he would have lost to violent death or
abandonment, one after another, if he'd stayed in the wizarding
world?
Not the sort of upbringing I would choose for a child I feared
might have paranoid tendencies acquired from Voldemort.
> Pippin:
> I don't think that Dumbledore left Harry with the Dursleys for any
kind of life lessons reason, but I do think that he may have felt
that any pressure on the Dursleys would have a bad effect
(especially on Vernon) and take away the one advantage,
besides a whole skin, that Harry might glean from being with
them. <
> Alla:
>
> I am glad that we agree on "life lessons" part, but I am unclear
> what is the other advantage besides being alive Harry has
from staying with Dursleys?<
Pippin:
The Dursleys do not act like the kind of abusive or neglectful
parents who are cruel and affectionate by turns, and expect their
mistreated children to love them one day and can't be bothered
with them the next.
I think that Tom had a lot of treatment like that, and it made him
paranoid. The Dursleys always treat Harry, and each other, the
same way, so Harry learns to think that people are predictable.
He didn't have anyone to love or trust at the Dursleys, but at least
his ability to love and trust wasn't destroyed. Tom's was.
> Pippin:
> > I think we sometimes exaggerate how miserable Harry is at
Privet Drive. Voldemort has made him feel much worse than the
Dursleys have. The Dursleys have *never* made Harry wish he
were dead. Voldemort has.
>
>
> Alla:
>
> I don't remember Hary "wishing" that he was dead at Dursleys,
but I sure remember him being AFRAID that he will die there at
least once.<
>
>
> "Yet life at Privet Drive had reached an all-time low. Now that
> Dursleys knew they weren't going to wake up as fruit bats, he
had lost his only weapon. Dobby might have saved Harry from
horrible happenings at Hogwarts, but the way things were
going, he'd probably starve to death anyway" - CoS, p.22,
paperback.
>
> Sounds to me that he was being miserable enough there.<
Pippin:
Miserable, yes, afraid he might die, yes, but not so unhappy that
he wished he would. The canon you have just quoted says that it
was *never* worse than that. And what caused it? Interference
from the magical world, in the form of Dobby.
Pippin
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