Sirius' death and Harry's Love

[Steve]

No: HPFGUIDX 115264


--- In HPforGrownups at yahoogroups.com, "cubfanbudwoman"
<susiequsie23 at s...> wrote:
> 
> ...edited...
> 
> SSSusan:
> While I understand what Magda is saying about being in love with the 
> *idea* of being a godfather/godson, I agree more fully with Nora.  
> While it may seem bizarre to some of us that Harry could love Sirius 
> deeply so quickly, we're...well...not Harry.  
> 
> My take on this is that, *because* Harry was denied love for so 
> long, to have someone openly CARE for him -- CHOOSE him, in fact -- 
> was a deeply moving experience.  ...edited...
> 
> It COULD have been just an idealized thing, yes, but I think it 
> *was* real affection for Harry. ...when Harry ... recognize faults &
> annoyances in Sirius..., he'd have had this image *shattered,* ....,
> and the relationship would have crumbled.  No, the affection was 
> genuine, imo, because these annoyances & concerns didn't shatter 
> Harry's image of Sirius, nor make him stop caring about him.  
> 
> ...edited...
> 
> That's how I see it anyway.
> 
> Siriusly Snapey Susan

bboyminn:

Once again, SSSusan and I are in sync, I thought her analysis was very
insightful and can't find anything to pick at, but I will add one
additional point.

Upon this earth, and more importantly in Harry's life, not a trace of
his father, James, remains. Not a single connection or artifact to tie
Harry to James. Well, that's not quite true, there is the Cloak and
the Map, but nice as they are, they are not very warm and 'fuzzy', and
they only come later, after Harry finds out he is a wizard. Sad and
worthless as she is, at least Petunia is a living connection between
Harry and his mother.

Then Harry meets Lupin, but there relationship is established in a
different frame work, teacher/student, and he doesn't find out about
the connection between his father and Lupin until later in the year,
and even then the true extent of James and Lupin's relationship is not
revealed until near the very end of the book.

Sirius on the other hand, once all the details are in, was James very
best and closest friend; more like a brother than a friend. So close
that Sirius was named as Harry's Godfather. That makes Sirius the
closest living thing in the world to Harry's father.

In a sense, when Harry is standing in Sirius's presents, he is
standing in the reflected presents of his own father. That has to be a
very warm and comforting feeling for Harry. From a longer perspective,
Sirius is Harry's gateway to truly knowing his own father. 

Sadly, like so many of use with regard to the ones we love, we think
there will always be time; that we have a whole lifetime to get
aquanted. And that is true, unfortunatly, we forget that sometimes a
'whole lifetime' is, in reality, a very short span of time. So,
thinking there would always be time, Harry didn't ask those question
that he needed to ask, and part of the loss of Sirius, is the loss of
the answers to those question that no one but James closest, dearest,
and most intimate friend could answer.

I'm not saying that this defines the whole spectrum of Harry and
Sirius's relationship, just that it was a strong influencing factor in
Harry quickly developing strong feelings for Sirius. In a sense, to
love Sirius, is to love Harry own father by proxie. To lose Sirius, is
to lose his father all over again.

Just a thought.

Steve/Bboyminn (was bboy_mn)