[HPforGrownups] Slytherin Relationships

[Saitaina]

No: HPFGUIDX 115785

< A member of any other house could
never find
happiness with a Slytherin, because the
Slytherin would eat them
alive, so to speak.>

Not really.  Most Slytherin's would
actually find it relaxing to be with a
Ravenclaw or a Gryffindor because they
don't constantly have to be looking
over their shoulder for a knife in the
back.

Dating/seducing/marrying for power,
money, whatever is all well and good,
but when you come right down to wanting
a happy, normal relationship, a
Slytherin would never choose one of
their own unless forced.

A Slytherin wants to be top dog, and to
have the power.  To marry another
Slytherin would mean constantly
fighting, trying to out play the other
person.  If they married from another
house (another personality type) this
constant butting of heads would lessen.

The only way I can't see this working
is a Slytherin/Hufflepuff match because
the basic personality traits that got
them into those houses would pull them
apart, loyalty, hard work, those aren't
things a lot of Slytherin's are fond
of.

You never mentioned love (in regards to
the Slytherin), in your post.  Why?
Slytherin personalities feel it, and
there are advantages to love beyond the
happy mushy ideals.  A common respect
for each other, a feeling of affection
and warmth (which is what love is),
would be ideal to a Slytherin
relationship because it's a measure of
protection.   How many actively seek to
hurt or destroy those they care about?

Not only that, but a Slytherin, in love
(or in friendship) would be a great
alley.  They want to achieve the best,
and why not help their friends along
with it?  Granted, Slytherin's aren't
natural givers, but if you have a solid
relationship with one, there's going to
be some boons, if only for you to later
return the favor for them (which is
what a good friendship/marriage is
anyway, a balance of give and take).

To love a Slytherin, either in
friendship or romantic is hard, I'll
give you that.  But if you can work
past the manipulation, the ambition,
the drive to "BE", a Slytherin would
have a lot to offer.

A Ravenclaw for instance could find a
brilliant mind to debate with, a
partner who also has a lot of
knowledge, but for different reasons
then simply desiring it.

A Gryffindor would find a soul brave
enough to risk their neck when needed,
strong enough to succeed where others
have failed, simply because they desire
it, and someone to keep them from
running off half cocked and without an
idea of what to do once they get there.

Even a Hufflepuff can find someone to
hold them up when they can't stand,
someone to help them when they can't
figure it out, and someone to guide
them along, weather they need it or
not.  While a Hufflepuff/Slytherin
relationship would be one of the most
easy to fail, it's also the best to
succeed if their personalities are
right.  This is where the dom/sub
personalities would come into play (the
actual personalities not the sexual
kink).  A Slytherin is, by nature, a
dominate personality.  If he finds the
right Hufflepuff with a sub
personality, it could be a great
relationship.  One to lead, the other
to follow.  This is harder to find in
the other houses (Gryffindors, again by
nature, are dominate, Ravenclaws could
be either depending on the person).

This doesn't mean there won't be some
spectacular fights, but as in all life,
there's going to be some rough patches.
A Gryffindor/Slytherin match would have
the highest rate of these, but the
passion they feel for each other would
balance those out.  It wouldn't destroy
them, unless they let it.

A lot of us have the same personality
traits as described in the books, some
to a lesser extent, and some to the
same cookie-cutter molds as in the
books, and we have relationships with
the people who have the other
personalities.  And that, is the
easiest way to see how a relationship
would work in the books.  By looking at
our own lives.

But the fact remains, we do see cookie
cutter versions of the four houses in
the books, where one facet of a
person's personality is brought to
light and not the other bits.

That said, I am a Slytherin, and no, I
don't mean "I'm a Slytherin but I also
have..."  I AM a Slytherin, in all it's
cookie cutter glory.  I live with a
Hufflepuff in her cookie cutterness, I
have friends who are various other bits
and one cookie cutter Gryffindor.

Yes I have problems in my
relationships, yes I have few friends
and no love interest.  But I work hard
a relationships (when they're worth
it), and I try to do what's right by
them.  I give when I can, take when
it's offered, and try to be a good
friend who just happens to be a
manipulative, cunning, narcissistic
twit.

You can't judge a relationship, until
you've seen it in action.  The worst
people in the world for each other can
often have the best relationship
around.

Saitaina
****
I've planned my dream wedding since I
was five.  I have it all planned,
invitations, cake,  heck I even know
what flatware to use.  I'm twenty-three
now, and I'm watching those dreams go
up in flames.  All because I'm a
lesbian, a second class citizen.

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"No, one day I'm going to look back on
all this and plow face-first into a
tree because I was looking the wrong
bloody way. And I'll still be having a
better day than I am today."


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