What should Harry REALLY feel sorry for?

[delwynmarch]

No: HPFGUIDX 116806


Alla wrote :
" I find nothing unusual in Harry's behaviour in OOP. Especially
because they all had their fair share of immature behaviour in the books."

Del replies :
I agree. But we weren't talking about unusual behaviour, were we ? We
were talking about what we thought Harry should be sorry for. And if
we had to do Hermione and Ron's lists too, some of their immature
behaviour would probably make it to my list. But this is about Harry.

Alla wrote :
" Both Ron and Hermione had a choice of not being there for Harry and
accordingly not listening to him (undeservingly of course) venting his
anger at him."

Del replies :
Well yes, but :
1. They wouldn't be better friends if they did that. It's shameful in
my book to repeatedly use your friends at punching-bags, but it's just
as shameful to abandon a friend who's obviously going through a bad
period just because he's not being too nice to you those days.
2. Harry needs them, they know it. He basically has nobody else but
him. And all 3 of them have long ago informally committed to one another.
3. Can you imagine how Harry would react if they did that ? We have a
glimpse of that at the beginning of the Christmas holidays, and it's
not pretty.
4. Harry is quite often in a bad mood, or just an inch away from it.
That makes it harder to avoid his temper...

Alla wrote :
"I am glad they chose to be there and help him "

Del replies :
So am I. I just wish Harry realised that they *chose* to be by his
side and would treat them accordingly, instead of expecting more or
something else. They do their best, but often he's just not satisfied.
As you say, the adults are not doing their part, but this is not Ron
and Hermione's fault. They are trying to compensate as best they can,
but of course they can't do very much. And yet they are the only ones
who suffer for Harry's frustration and misery throughout OoP. Only at
the end does Harry finally let his anger blow up in the face of
someone who is *really* responsible for part of his misery : DD.

Del