[HPforGrownups] Re: "A Little Romance"

[Sherry Gomes]

No: HPFGUIDX 127894

 
> Most of times that he does lie to her that I recall usually come 
> back and trouble him in one way or another (legilimency, second 
> task) so even though he might not like it, the nagging is usually 
to 
> his benefit. 

People who nag are always doing it for someone's benefit. It's just 
the way least likely to get that person to do what you want.
 

Sherry now:

Many years ago, someone read me a very amusing but appropriate exchange in an Ann Landers column.  For people unfamiliar with Landers, she was an advice columnist for many years.  Anyway, it dealt with nagging.  A woman wrote in and declared that if women love their husbands, they should nag them--to quit smoking, to quit drinking, to eat better, to get more rest--you get the idea.  The woman said that this constant nagging would add years to men's lives by keeping them healthy.  In other words, the woman said that other women should consider it their duty to nag their husbands constantly so the guys would live longer.  Landers' response was,

"Who would want more years of that?"

I do like Hermione in many ways, but her nagging doesn't ever seem to do any good in the end.  Nagging is guaranteed to make most people close their ears.  I know that's how I react to it.  And as for the comment that Harry needs Hermione to be constantly reminding him of all that is at stake, and that he doesn't have time to have fun in his life--excuse me, I'm not quoting that exactly right, I know--I think that Harry MUST have times for fun and laughter.  Soldiers in all kinds of wars, others in extreme danger, find time to laugh.  It seems to be part of the necessary survival skills.  I think the human mind and body can only take so much, and if the tension isn't relieved a bit by some lighthearted good times and happiness, we would all crack up for good.  Harry has such a terrible burden to carry, and the times with his friends, the way he feels with the Weasleys, the laughter he shares with ron, these are necessary to his survival and his ability to continue the fight.  just my opinion of course.

sherry