[HPforGrownups] Re: "A Little Romance"

[Susanne]

No: HPFGUIDX 127927



Hi,

Thursday, April 21, 2005, 11:34:06 PM, elady25 wrote:

>  So I think if he and Hermione get together, she is 
> definitely going to be dating beneath her level.  Urrgh!  Hermione
> reminds me of myself, and if I were in a relationship with Ron, I
> would, well, not be. 

And here lies one of the big problems, I think: you identify with
Hermione and project your feelings and reasoning onto her
character.

But the thing is that *Joanne Rowling* is also Hermione and
the author ;)
So, we'll have to just go along with the way *she* envisions
her feelings.

Looking at the way she speaks of Hermione, she does not see
her as all that self assured and mostly perfect, and she
even once said something along the lines "if she'd been as
annoying as Hermione as a kid, she'd have deserved drowing".
This was, of course, jokingly said, but it makes me believe
that we are not supposed to see Hermione as this perfect
creature who wishes nothing more than to help everyone
around her and should be adored by everyone.

While she does want to help, her methods are not always
right or pleasant, and sometimes achieve the opposite of
what she wanted to (making people avoid her, and put of
studying even more).

I probably see Hermione and Ron as a lot more equal than you
do, since I don't think Ron is a dumb clod and Hermione is
not quite as highly advanced a being, imo ;)

I agree that Hermione has fun studying, working on spew and
knitting elf clothes, but this does not mean that other
people like those things, or that Hermione can not have fun
in other ways.

The problem with Harry and Hermione is that Harry doesn't
tell her he is not interested, and suffers through it (not
with much grace) or tries avoiding/lying to get out of this
kind of fun.
He also doesn't try to make her try some other fun
activities. It's all about Hermione helping Harry.

With Ron in the mix, there are some other activities (chess,
Hogsmeade, being talked out of studying every once in a
while, being told straight out when something is not fun to
anyone but Hermione instead of making up something, verbal
sparring, getting admiration for her intellect in a
backhanded, but nevertheless pleasing way).

Harry and Hermione just don't seem to have the right
personality traits to be a romantic couple.
Harry is under a lot of pressure, and while Hermione is
extremely helpful and a great friend, she is also very
anxious and very insistant and bossy, and never lets Harry
forget for a moment about the danger he is in.

He needs a break every once in a while, but Hermione doesn't
and she can't understand that others don't function the same
way she does (I thought it was ironic how she
psychoanalyzed Cho in detail, but can't seem to do the same
with herself or her close friends).

-- 
Best regards,
 Susanne                           mailto:siskiou at vcem.com