SHIP: Where is the canon about Harry and Ginny?

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No: HPFGUIDX 135909

--- In HPforGrownups at yahoogroups.com, Ladi lyndi <ladilyndi at y...> 
wrote:
> delwynmarch  wrote:
> am asking for is "show me where it says that the *romance* between
> Harry and Ginny is such a great thing".
> 
> 
> Lynn:
>  
> I'm still not sure exactly what you are looking for, but I'm going 
to make a stab.
>  
>  
> For me, a defining moment in their physical intimacy with each 
other was the scene where Ginny was sitting in front of Harry, 
leaning against his legs and discussing the tatoo.  (UK p. 500)  
That's a very initimate thing to do.  We don't see that kind of 
physical contact/familiarity before that.  To me, it shows that they 
are now very comfortable touching each other, something we haven't 
seen before.
> 

Now Me:
As someone who was in no ship camp whatsoever, this was the scene to 
me that said that their relationship was much more than snogging. 
They are still friends but their relationship has grown to that next 
level of physical intimacy. I too believe we missed out on a lot 
when they took that walk after quidditch. I would have loved to 
hear, but maybe like 'obscene hand gestures' JKR wanted us to 
*insert mature talk here* still I wish that we could have had a 
glimpse. Maybe book seven is going to have love where this had 
crush/snogging. I truly believe that Ginny loves Harry and that's 
why she could let him go without tears and agony. I think it is 
implied that after/if V is defeated they will return to each other. 
I think it is also I sign of love that she already knew that he 
would have to do this. She know him very very well and also wants 
him to be himself, she doesn't want to change him because of their 
new relationship. 

Quickly, this is my reason for H/G shipping over H/Hr, and I believe 
I feel this way because I am the mother and a teacher and maybe have 
a little JKR insight (but probably not)

I think that it is less that Ginny is his mother and more that Ginny 
represents a way for Harry to get the life he always dreamed of. 
Harry was HORRIBLY neglected as a child. If you imagine what he went 
through in real terms, the Dursleys should be in jail! But imagine 
for a moment emotionally what this means to him. He has never been 
loved in his life that he remembers, he probably does not know how 
to speak in romantic love terms. I tell my husband and kids I love 
them every day and I (usually) hear it back. While I am not sure 
that the burrow is like that, there is obviously love in that house, 
there is warmth and touching and all of the things Harry doesn't 
quite understand but wished he had. The Weasleys are poor, Harry is 
Rich and all he wants is what the Weasleys have: Love. Family love. 
Ginny embodies family love to him. But he doesn't love her like a 
sister, he loves her for what she means to his present and his 
future. That some day Harry might have the chance to raise his own 
children in the way that he wishes he was raised. Hermione on the 
other hand, doesn't conjur those 'warm feelings', she was raised my 
Muggles and, honesly, Harry *should* HATE muggles given what he went 
through. I don't think that is how he feels but I think that 
underlying warmth he gets from the burrow ( that was in the love 
potion afterall) is why H/G's relationship has that level of 
importance above snogging, love.

And I do not think that this is all speculation. I think that it 
made sense to JKR. I think that she balanced the Dursleys with the 
Weasleys for a reason and not just 'this is my bff's family' but 
this is the life I never had.

As for not liking Ginny for Harry that is where the mom in me comes 
in. The mom would say "Oh Harry that Hermione is so perfect for you, 
she is smart, your intellectual and magical equal etc., etc.," and 
my son would say back "But mom, she is my friend, she doesn't excite 
me in that way, I want the fun girl who gets my blood pumping" 
(Hey, I actually think I have had that conversation before.)