Harry/Ginny

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No: HPFGUIDX 135973

Rizza:
>>I don't understand why so many readers are so dissatisfied with 
the 
>>Harry/Ginny relationship.
 
Christina:
> I've been a Harry/Ginny shipper since day one.  It's always made 
> sense to me, and it's always seemed like the logical choice.  That 
> said, I absolutely *hated* the way H/G was handled in HBP.  My 
> main issue is with the way Ginny's character was treated in 
> general.  In my mind, Ginny is written in HBP as SuperAwesome!
> Ginny-- aka, every Mary Sue I've ever read.  She is without flaw 
> which makes her, IMO, boring.  I felt as though JKR was screaming 
> to us, "Look!  Ginny is so cool!  She's sassy and classy and funny > and athletic and doesn't everyone just LOVE her?"  


Actually, I DIDN'T think she was super-Ginny; her "flaw," not 
withstanding that it helped her positive traits stick out and got 
Harry to finally notice her, is that she wasn't "true to her heart," 
so to speak, for quite some time.  Don't have the book right in 
front of me, but she tells Harry something like she always liked him 
and never really gave up, yet we know she dated two different boys 
for significant periods of time.  This is a mistake that I think a 
lot of people, esp. teens and those in their early 20's make; they 
really like someone but they will "settle" for someone else if the 
first person's feelings aren't reciprocated, or "settle" for someone 
who's not necessarily a good match for them if they are single 
because they are so desperate to be part of a couple.

That is, to me, a big character flaw that I have personal experience 
with... I even married on of those "settled for" men because I 
wanted to not be single anymore, and somewhere deep down convinced 
myself that it was ok because I liked him and even loved him 
platonically and was physically attracted to him, so why not?  
Because I ended up extremely unhappy, lost myself inside the 
relationship and ended up divorced, that's why.  Fortunately, I am 
now happy and content and having a lot of first & second dates but 
no relationships, because I'm waiting for someone who really is a 
good match for me, not just someone who I like and seems nice.  So I 
certainly learned from the experience, but I definitely think that 
it is a huge character flaw to be in a relationship just for the 
sake of being one...

I'm not condoning Ginny sitting around pining for Harry, but there 
are ways to "get a life" without it involving romance with the wrong 
person.  And I think Ginny realizes how content she is, and how 
secure the relationship feels (leaning on Harry's legs is a huge act 
of emotional intimacy, in my mind) and that is why she doesn't "act 
up" when Harry breaks up with her... she, first of all, will "kick 
a**" as someone so eloquently put it (sorry I can't remember who; 
too many posts to keep track of), in Book 7, and second, she's 
figured out about timing.  If she and Harry are going to be 
together, it will be when the time is right, and even if he's WRONG 
(which I really think he is; I think his need for Ginny's, as well 
as the others', help is stronger than his want for her to "be safe") 
she knows, somehow that the timing will never be right if they don't 
agree at the time about whether or not they should be together.

She's also got a bit of a temper (flying into Zacharias Smith after 
Quidditich), like her mother and Ron, and can be catty (Fleur's 
behavior, while not very nice AT ALL, was met on its level by giving 
her a bad nickname behind her back, and telling Hermione not to 
embarrass herself re: Quidditich, was quite arrogant, even if the 
intentions were defending Harry; on the other hand, Hermione was 
being very insensitive as Harry already felt terrible about what had 
happened).

Christina, I (hopefully)politely disagree with you about liking the 
plain Ginny better, but I absolutely agree that this relationship 
could have been shown a bit more meat... a paragraph or two about 
the burrow, an on-stage joke or prank of Ginny's, and perhaps a 
better description of Ginny's physical appearance, since she's 
supposed to be so pretty.  We know long, red hair & brown eyes from 
various references, and "small," according to the twins, but is the 
hair curly, straight, wavy?  Is she small because she's the youngest 
and a girl, or is she short and/ or slight (most likely since she 
plays seeker well)?  

Veronica, who is a H/G and R/H shipper all the way