Harry, Ginny, and age appropriateness / Abusive Harry (combined answer)

[susanmcgee48176]

No: HPFGUIDX 136099

Okay, number 1.

  I do not think JKR implies that Ginny and Harry are off having wild 
sex. We do not see or hear any of the children having "wild sex". We 
see them kissing (snogging). I would assume they were kissing and 
talking and talking and kissing...they had to re-hash their 
relationship, when they first realized they liked each other, etc.?

#2. JKR gives tons of hints that Ginny and Harry will become involved 
throughout the Half-Blood Prince. It starts out with Harry realizing 
with a jolt that having spent the summer with Ginny, he's about to 
lose her company at school. That upsets him.

#3. We get to know Ginny QUITE well, and we do see her in action.
We see her as a Quidditch player. We see her hex Malfoy. We see her 
in the scene where the Inquisitorial Squad and Umbrage has captured 
them all. We see her determination to go to the MoM. Wasn't it Ginny 
who named the D.A. Dumbledore's Army (because that's the Ministry's 
worst fear. She has a great sense of humor -- look at her imitation 
of Umbridge in the Hog's Head and her comment about the Norwegian 
Ridgeback being much more macho. We also see her complexity -- she 
snarls at her friend Hermione for giving Harry a hard time. She loses 
her temper quite easily -- and she is not nice to Ron about snogging. 
Not nice at all..... She's NOT one dimensional. 

#4. I do not see ANY indication that Harry is either controlling or 
abusive (was this really alleged?). This is probably the one thing I 
do know something about having spent the last 25 years working in the 
field of domestic violence.

#5. I DO think JKR is giving us a glimpse of a healthy relationship. 
Ginny has stopped putting Harry on the crush pedestal. They are 
friends. They trust and like each other. They've grown to know each 
other. Ginny was the one who confronted Harry in OoP when Harry 
believes he was possessed by Voldemort. She is the person who has the 
best clue about what Harry has gone through given her own experience. 
Harry has never been happier.... It's not as if he got involved with 
Romilda Vane?

Susan McGee