Harry, Ginny and me (was : Harry, Ginny, and age appropriateness...)

[ongj87]

No: HPFGUIDX 136176

"I see a relationship in which the boy calls the shots and the girl
meekly accepts his decisions." - Del

I have to disagree with this.  Harry simply makes the decision that he 
doesn't wish to be with Ginny as he goes through the challenges he is 
about to face.  He doesn't want Ginny to be burdened with his 
troubles, nor does he want a reason to fear death: that by dying he 
might not be able to see her again.  And it's not him making a 
decision for the both of them.  It's his decision to separate with 
her, and he's completely entitled to it.  Whether it's in his best 
interest or not is a completely different matter.

At any rate, I think we're missing the entire point that JK is trying 
to make here.  There is no doubt that the relationships present in HP 
are imperfect.  And the ones we witness between the students of 
Hogwarts are simply atrocious at times.  

But then again, you can make the same arguments about all the 
characters.  None of the characters are what you'd call perfect.  They 
all have faults.  Does that mean that we should automatically assume 
that we need to take them up as rolemodels?  Of course not.  None of 
us do that.  

JK doesn't make perfect characters, and thus she doesn't make perfect 
couples.  

She realizes that although Harry, Ron, Hermione and Ginny are growing 
up, they are still far from mature, and have little experience in such 
matters.  She wants to teach us that although Harry is good at keeping 
the dark forces at bay and Hermione is book smart and Ron is... well, 
let's not get into this now... the point is, she wants to teach us 
that love is a very seperate entity in it's own and can only be 
learned through experience.  I think we can expect to see them mature 
in this area though.  And if that ain't a good example for kids, then 
I don't know what is.

And I don't know about you, but I don't think we should dwell on 
whether Harry and Ginny are to be set as an example for a good 
relationship to see whether JK is trying to plant good morals into our 
children as to love or dating.  Why don't you look at Molly and Arthur 
Weasley's relationship?  The love that has withstood two wars?  Why 
don't you look at Tonks and Lupin, the couple that sets the standard 
for unconditional love?  Why not look at Fleur and Bill, whom give the 
cliched 'looks don't matter' message?

ongj87