Putting words in other posters' mouth / Choices

[vmonte]

No: HPFGUIDX 136885

Message 136037:

Del:
"* I see a boy who imposes his will on his girl.

* I see a boy who doesn't care to hurt his girl as long as it makes
things easier for him.


vmonte:
This is what you call signs of abuse? When did Harry impose his will 
on Ginny? And hurt her? Do you mean when he broke up with her because 
he was worried about her life? Come on! 


Del:
* I see a relationship that is deemed good because it makes the boy
happy, but nothing is said about the girl.

* I see a relationship where we don't know anything of what happens
when they are together.

vmonte:
Really, you never heard Ginny say that she never gave up on Harry? 
What do you mean we know nothing about what happens when they are 
together? I recall them being happy.

  
Del:
* I remember that this boy had the habit of shouting loud and long to
force his female best friend to shut up in the last book.

vmonte:
Huh? You've never had an argument with your friend? Or behaved out of 
character due to stress? Add having the weight of the wizarding world 
on your shoulders. 
  

Del:
* I also remember that this boy didn't care one bit what his former
girlfriend needed, and that he got angry when it was explained to him
what her emotional needs were. I remember that this boy had a mental
image of what he wanted his former girlfriend to be, and that he
didn't like it when she didn't conform.

vmonte:
You mean Cho? Was Cho Harry's girlfriend? I thought they went on ONE 
date? 

Del:
* And of course, I remember that this boy was raised without love,
that he was emotionally abused or at least neglected as a kid, and
that he doesn't have a parental figure to turn to for counsel anymore.

vmonte:
Yes, this part is true. But you have missed the point altogether I'm 
afraid. JKR is trying to show that people have a choice to do what is 
right over what is wrong. Harry has made his choice don't you think? 
Afterall isn't he Dumbledore's man!  

De:
"Now, I sincerely doubt that JKR would make Harry abuse Ginny. But the
fact remains that she gave many clues that he could be, and none that
their relationship is in fact healthy."

vmonte:
Sorry, you are wrong here. Again the books are not about your life.

Vivian