What cultural standards we are using to determine whether Snape is abusive ?

[lagattalucianese]

No: HPFGUIDX 144364

> 
> Harry  may not be able to control how he feels, but it is
> entirely up to him what he does about the feelings. He can
> sulk and scowl and seethe until he finally blows up, or he can 
> grin and say, "Enchantingly nasty!"  
> 
> A thirteen year old is not, IMO, too young to understand this,
> in fact many of them figure it out for themselves. 
> 
> Dumbledore says that Snape is wounded, and that's why he
> hasn't overcome his feelings about Harry's father. DD blames himself
> for forgetting this. Now maybe Harry can't overcome his feelings 
> about Snape because he is more wounded than
> Dumbledore thinks he is, but Harry has learned to laugh off insults
> from Draco and Vernon, who used to terrify him, whereas we've
> never seen Snape manage to laugh off an insult from anybody.
> In fact, we've never seen him laugh at all.
> 
>  
> Pippin
> wondering if Snape will laugh in book seven
>
I'm sorry, can somebody provide me with some context here? If Harry 
is thirteen (?), we must be somewhere in either CoS or PoA, but I've 
gotten rather bogged down in the thread, and I'm not sure what we're 
talking about anymore.

--La Gatta