Harry's grief (was: Dumbledore the General)

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Betsy:
Of *course* Harry's having nightmares!  He witnessed a schoolmate 
murdered in front of him and barely got away with his own life.  Is 
there anything that could have kept Harry from having nightmares?  

Alla: 
I interpreted your earlier argument as that Harry was only angry 
about being out of the loop about the news and in comparison to Cho 
he is in healthier mindset. I am arguing that Harry is in pretty bad 
mindset on his own and Graveyard and him being angry about not 
having any news from WW are pretty closely related.

Betsy:
Are there any psychologists on this list who think nightmares could 
have been prevented?  Honestly, you're holding Dumbledore up to 
pretty impossible standards, IMO.  Frankly, if Harry had been all 
sunshine happy I'd have worried about his mental health.

Alla:

I have an idea. How about... Sirius OR Remus or both of them 
dropping up for a visit or few and talking to Harry about what 
happened to him? Sure, it would have mean exposing who Mrs. Figg 
really is , but it seems like a very small price to pay to me.

I don't think I am holding Dumbledore up to impossible standards by 
insisting that he should have made sure that Harry had his friends 
near by and available. Of course we are not talking about real 
psychologists. It seems like there are no mind healers in WW. But 
friends support network should work pretty well, IMO. So, yes, I do 
hold Dumbledore accountable for cutting Harry off one. And of 
course, how about letting Ron and Hermione answer Harry questions in 
hsi letters. I think that would have helped too.


Betsy:
snip.

Honesty is not always 
easy, but it is absolutely essential in this case.  Harry must have 
a clear idea of what happened and what went wrong.  Also, I wouldn't 
really catagorize what Dumbledore said about Kreacher as 
a "lecture."  It was a statement of facts in response to Harry's 
questions and assumptions.


Alla:

Sirius died what ten... fifteen minutes ago? An hour at best. And 
you think it is very helpful for Harry to hear that Sirius did not 
treat Kreacher well and that in essense Sirius is to blame for his 
own death? 

I am going to agree to disagree and leave it at that for now .


Just my opinion,

Alla