Mother Molly (was: Some OOTP Questions) / Nice people get pass

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>>Valky:
>I'd like to sway your opinion on that Betsy. I think I have figured 
Molly out and I don't think Toxic sums it up all that well.
>I agree that many times the consequence of certain of her behaviours 
is to emotionally injure her children. But her motivations haven't 
been clarified in discussions about it...
<major snip>
>Molly is conflicted. On the one hand she loves and believes in 
Arthur. He is a brave and righteous man, what he does is right and 
she knows it deep down. But on the other hand, all this anti-bloodism 
is destroying her family.
<major snip again> 
>I think Molly is a lot more vulnerable and low in self esteem than 
is first noticable. All she wants is to be dignified again.< 

Betsy:
I like your theories on Molly's motivations, Valky.  It explains why 
Molly is so big on keeping her children away from Muggles and Muggle 
items.  And it explains her somewhat old fashioned, or pureblooded, 
views that she and Ron (from her tutelage I'll bet) both express 
towards halfbreeds, while at the same time, all of her children 
overtly despise the pureblood mentality.

However, though it's not on purpose, I still think Molly's treatment 
of her children is a bit toxic - in that she can be a force her 
children have to protect themselves against, rather than a nurturing 
one (though Molly can be nurturing at times).  (I don't think a 
parent has to be consciously harmful to be a toxic influence on their 
children.)  I mean she's not abusive or anything, and I think the 
Weasleys are fairly normal, with all the warts and weaknesses 
normality entails.  

But the Weasley household is not all sweetness and light and I think 
Molly is a big source of the problems.  Arthur can be brought in for 
some blame as well just by his very passivity.  If he'd stood up to 
his wife a bit more, rather than hiding out in his tool shed, maybe 
there'd be more balance in the children's upbringing.

I wonder though, if the frailty of the Weasley household will be 
further explored by JKR or if she just installed those weaknesses to 
make the Weasley family more real.  After all, no family is perfect.

Betsy, who wonders if this means there really *cannot* be a OBHWF 
ending.