Harry's Lies

[delwynmarch]

No: HPFGUIDX 125298


Alla wrote:
"Yes, I am comfortable with Harry's lying too when it is for the noble
purpose of saving somebody, but are you specifically comfortable  with
Harry telling twins not to tell Molly about him giving them the TWT money?

Do you agree that Harry is lying because he knows that Molly 
dissaproves of twins' venture and that by association she will "stop 
loving Harry", if she learns about that?

Do you think that in this instance Harry's lying could be looked at as
the scars of his abusive upbringing showing up - namely his inability
to trust that adult can held PERMANENT genuine affection for him even
if said adult ( Molly in that instance) can disagree with his actions?"

Del replies:
This could be the case, but it really doesn't have to be this dramatic
to be realistic. Lying in order to avoid getting into troubles is a
very human thing to do. To me, it's just like when Harry told Hermione
he had figured out the Egg Clue in GoF when in fact he hadn't, or when
he told her he was practicing Occlumency when he wasn't in OoP: he
just wanted to avoid getting nagged or scolded, he was never afraid to
lose Hermione's love. And neither was he afraid to lose Molly's love
in the example you gave: he just knew what Molly can be when she
disapproves of something you did, and he didn't want to bring that
kind of treatment on himself.

Compare his attitude with Lupin's attitude in PoA. Lupin was so afraid
to lose DD's trust that he risked Harry's life (and potentially the
life of everyone in Hogwarts) rather than admitting his wrongs. But
Harry easily "confessed" to Hermione and Ron, and gave Ron permission
to tell Molly, just to prevent Molly from thinking that the Twins were
getting their money through illegal means.

Lupin has a problem with being afraid to lose the trust and affection
of the people close to him, but Harry doesn't.

Just my opinion of course,

Del