DD and Harry in Book VI, re: Harry's Grief

[Steve]

No: HPFGUIDX 123577


--- In HPforGrownups at yahoogroups.com, "esmith222002" <c.john at i...> wrote:
> 
> My personal view is that Harry will feel that he has lost the way, 
> but that due to insecurity and guilt, not because he won't be able
> to care.
> 
> Naama

 
> This is straight from the horse's mouth - so to speak!!
> 
> JKR: "In book six, the wizarding world is really at war again and 
> [Harry] has to master his own feelings to make himself useful."
> [WBD-04] 
> 
> So it seems that you are on the right track, Naama!
> 
> Brothergib


bboyminn:

I think it's important for people to realize that "[Harry] has to
master his own feelings to make himself useful" is a complex process
and not an instantaneous event. It is a complex process with many
stages and many parallel tracks, and many complex internal and
external issues that have to be resolved.

In addition, the loss of a loved one in the manner that Harry lost
Sirius is something that even once resolved is will still effect a
person for a life time. 

Certainly there is going to be grief, and grief is a long complex
process with many aspects. Further, Harry has reason to feel grief on
many fronts in his life. For example, I think Harry will go through
something mirroring the grieving process around finding out about the
Prophecy and his role in it.

I can see Harry going through a 'why me?' anger stage. I can see a
stage of denial where he tries to convince himself the Prophecy could
be all about Neville (a very short stage of denial, I suspect). A
further stage of denial in which Harry refuses to accept his fate. He
flatly refuses to cooperate in allowing fate or Dumbledore or the
wizard world to force him into this role. 

I can also see grief around that fact that people are dying because of
him, even if he is not personally the direct cause, he will certainly
feel he is the indirect cause, and a danger to all who are close to
him. Harry will therefore try to withdraw from his friends in order to
protect them.

Ultimately though, on all these fronts, he will realize that he will
have to face his destiny. He will reach the 'acceptance' stage of
grieving and from there move on.

So, I think all through the next book, we will see Harry going through
the various stages of Grief and doing so on many fronts, and in many
large and small ways. 

But I see no reason for that to stop the larger story from moving
forward. As others have said, even in the depths of our greatest
dispair, we can't stop the world, life, or time from marching ever
onward. 

Despite our greatest resistance, life goes on.

Just a thought.

Steve/bboyminn