[HPforGrownups] Re: I still dont like Fleur

[Ladi lyndi]

No: HPFGUIDX 135230

phoenixgod2000  wrote:

You have clearly never been between your girlfriend and your mother 
in fight. I have. 
 
<snip personal experience>

A lesson I still have the scars from learning.
 
Lynn:
 
No, I stood between my husband and my family and there are people in my family we no longer associate with because they will not accept, in their words, a second-class person because they come from a second-class country (The Netherlands).  On the other hand, I've had to explain to my husband why he shouldn't take the way others in my family do things as a personal insult.  My husband stood between me and his family, but then, he had the stones to do it.  If he didn't stand in the breach, he would have lost either me and his daughter as I would have returned to the US with her or he would have lost his family.  In our favor was that both sides loved him/me enough to work out an acceptable relationship.  We both have scars from it but we are together and neither one of us thinks the other is a coward for not standing up for our relationship.  
 
Then again, it's funny how a grandchild changes a lot attitudes on both sides.  One side finally understands the family isn't that bad (particularly when they want 'Mom' or sibling to babysit) and the other side realizes that someone who can help produce such a gorgeous child can't be all bad.
 
I get the feeling you relate to Fleur and Molly based on your experience so it's no wonder why you feel the way you do about Fleur and the other ladies.  I, however, have different experiences which color my way of looking at the interactions.  For me, Fleur is like my brother with whom we no longer have an association.  He's just too toxic.
 
So, I think we'll have to agree to disagree as we wouldn't be able to see the characters from the same perspective.
 
Good luck with your girlfriend and mother.  Sounds like you need it.




 

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