Explaining the danger to Harry (was: Changing the title because I'm tired of it)

[juli17ptf]

No: HPFGUIDX 130085

Alla wrote:
Harry indeed experienced 
> the usefullness of his connection with Voldie - he saved Arthur's 
> life.
> 
> I'd say it is a very important reason for him to keep such 
> connection in his mind. 
> 
> And nobody explained to him why  despite the fact the hesaved an 
> order member , he should shut it down, IMO.
> 
> 
> JMO,
> Alla.

I agree that this is probably the biggest issue DD and Snape 
neglected to address. And I think it was *part* of what motivated 
Harry to neglect the Occlumency lessons. After all, if he could do 
something useful with the connection to LV, then why shouldn't he use 
it? Why listen to DD and Snape's assertions that he had to block the 
connection? What do they know anyway?

Partly that is teenage reasoning, of course, thus natural for Harry. 
It's also natural teenage ego for Harry to believe he could control 
the connection, to believe himself indestructible. And in Harry's 
specific case, the fact that he'd previously defeated Voldemort (with 
help, but still he'd survived the encounters intact), just added to 
his blind confidence. 

The second reason Harry neglected the lessons was because of extreme 
curiosity, and nothing else. He *had* to know what was behind that 
door. It was driving him crazy to nearly get there, to be so close to 
having his burning curiosity satisfied, then to be denied again. 
Basically, he was obsessed, and I suspect that was largely 
Voldemort's doing. 

As for blame, DD took the largest part of it, not only because he did 
bear a large part of the responsibility, but because he wanted to 
spare Harry from being overwhelmed with guilt while Harry is still 
reeling from the death of his godfather.

But in the end, once he's quit shifting all the blame onto Snape, 
Harry will blame himself. THANK GOD. Because if Harry didn't 
recognize that his own mistakes, as well those of DD and Snape, led 
to the confrontation at the DoM and the resulting death of Sirius 
(whose own mistake also contributed to his death), then there would 
be little hope of Harry becoming the man he is destined to be. 
Accepting blame for our own mistakes is part of the maturing process 
for all of us. 

That said, another part of maturing is putting it all into 
perspective. Harry (as well as DD, Snape, and Sirius) all made 
mistakes that ultimately *led* to the confrontation between Sirius 
and Bellatrix. But none of them killed Sirius. That was Bellatrix's 
doing alone. When Harry recognizes that fact, then he will truly be 
able to accept the loss of his godfather and move on.  

Julie