Snape's abuse (Re: Would an "O" for Harry vindicate Snape?)
Tonks
tonks_op at yahoo.com
Tue Jun 28 05:03:04 UTC 2005
No: HPFGUIDX 131584
--- In HPforGrownups at yahoogroups.com, "prncssme" <prncssme at y...>
wrote:
> > Lupinlore said:
> > Are you saying that people who battle abuse and insist that
abusive behavior be halted are weaklings deserving of contempt?
(snip)>
> Princess Sara said:
> I think what Tonks is saying is that compared to say, Umbridge,
the problem of Snape's occasional mean remarks is relatively small.
Umbridge is physically AND emotionally abusive in ways that make
Snape look like a fluffy bunny of a man. (snip)>
> Can we please stop accusing each other of supporting or endorsing
abuse?
Tonks:
Thank you Princess Sara. I especially like thinking of Snape as a
fluffy bunny. ;-)
Lupinlore I know that you love to argue for the fun of it. Of course
I, and I am sure everyone else on both sides of this debate, do not
condone abuse of any kind. That goes without saying, IMO.
What I am arguing is that Snape fits (as some say) in the *shades of
gray area*. I don't know anything about the modern U.S. school
system and what the rules are there. And since Harry Potter does
not attend a U.S. school, I do not think that information is
relevant anyway. I am thinking about when I was a child and life in
general. Even very nasty people who do seriously emotional abuse
(think Umbridge) are not prosecuted for it because as far as I am
aware it is not against the law anywhere (WW, MW, RW). Physical
abuse is against the law in our RW, but I am not aware of emotional
abuse being so. I suspect that is would be hard to prove. What is
emotionally abusive to one may not be to someone else. (Does that
mean that it is OK to be like Umbridge, of course not.)
When I say that Snape is sometimes emotionally abusive I am thinking
of someone like Neville. Neville is not your typical child. He
grew up in a negative environment at home as far as I can tell. His
grandmother doesn't seem like the nurturing type. And Neville seems
especially sensitive. When he was younger, you could probably just
look at him crossways and he would burst into tears. Yes, it would
be nice if Neville had a loving nurturing teacher, but it has been
my experience that those types of teachers are rare. And very rare
once you get past the 3rd or 4th grade or so. By then you are
expected to be tougher. Some like Neville are not. I understand
that. Some are like Neville their whole life. Does that mean that
when they get out into the real world and have a job and a jack
s
for a manager that the manager should be fired? My answer to that
would be yes. But does that happen?? Very, very rarely and when it
does it is because they found some other way to hang them.
In the ideal world we would all be nice, kind, caring and loving
people. But we are not. Even caring people say and do stupid things
at times without realizing the impact it might have on someone
else. The best place for the Nevilles of the world to learn to deal
with emotionally abusive people is when they have supportive friends
to help them and at an age when learning interpersonal relations is
easier. If he is surrounded only by loving and nurturing teachers
during his whole school career, then he is going to be in for an
even ruder shock when he gets out into the real world. And when he
gets out into the real world his school friends will be gone and he
will have no skills to cope and could become one of those who end up
putting a gun to his head. That is an extreme thought perhaps, but
it can and does happen.
I am not saying that one should go out of their way to hire nasty
teachers. Basically what I am saying is that on a scale of one to
ten with one being Molly and ten being Umbridge, I think that Snape
is about a 5. And a 5 is OK. (I think that very few of us are a
one on any regular basis. Most of us are probably a 4.) So Snape at
a 5 is strict, no nonsense, with a bit of sarcastic wit perhaps.
And most of the kids can handle it. And with a little help so can
Neville.
One final thing. Remember how the rest of the staff responded to
Umbridge? Then think of how they interact with Snape. If Snape was
really all that bad don't you think that we would see the rest of
the staff treating him the same as they do Umbridge? But they
don't. And on this point, I rest my case.
Tonks_op
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