"A Little Romance" -Let's Be Friends

[Steve]

No: HPFGUIDX 128496

--- In HPforGrownups at yahoogroups.com, "finwitch" <finwitch at y...> wrote:
> > Max replies:
> > 
> > In 'real life', it's possible that someone like Harry might very
> > well be distracted by another 'pretty face'. But for the purposes 
> > of the story line I very much doubt that JKR will repeat that 
> > scenario a second time.
> > 

> 
> Finwitch:
> 
> And the one who Harry's romantic female is-- well, NOT Cho - he's 
> over her already. Luna Lovegood, perhaps? LOVE-GOOD... and it was 
> Luna who could comfort Harry ... It DOES have a definite 
> possibility, doesn't it? ...
> 
> Finwitch

bboyminn:

I'm thinking that relative to female relationships we will see a shift
in Harry. Well, we'll see a shift in Ron too, but he will shift in a
different direction. 

Up until GoF and to some extent in the last book, Harry has pretty
much hung out with just the guys; Hermione being one of the guys. But
now in the last book (OotP) new women have entered Harry's life;
Tonks, Cho, and Luna among others. I say Cho because in her, Harry has
had to face new aspects of himself. I think the next stage in Harry
phycho-sexual development will be to learn that girls can be friends.

We see the Luna's calm and slightly dotty but none the less deep and
wise insights lend comfort to Harry. Just her being calm is enough for
Harry to feel he can confide in her. Certainly every time he imagines
himself giving Ron and/or Hermione bad news, he dreads the thought of
how upset they will get, but that pressure is off with Luna.

I think once Harry and Cho get past the simmering emotions surrounding
their break up, they will find that they can be good comfortable
friends. Cho is obviously someone Harry likes, and once she gets over
Cedric, as I'm sure she now has, Cho is probably a very likable
person. Hence, I see Harry and Cho developing a casual friendship. 

Tonks while not relationship material for Harry is none the less a
girl, and one that he can probably easily relate to. She's fun and
interesting, outspoken and very unconventional, certainly there is
potential for friendship there.

Also, there are all the other girls in the DA Club that Harry has
worked with, and that I believe he will work even closer with in the
next two books.

The point is that Harry will make the transition from dreading the
thought of talking to a girl, and dreading the awkwardness of being
around them, to expanding his knowledge and experience with them on a
casual basis which in turn will develop an overal comfort in being
around them. This comfort will give him the confidence to develop
later deeper relationships.

As a side note: the change I see in Ron is that, to some extent, he
becomes a horn-dog; that is, he fully discovers girls. I further
suspect that this sudden interest in girls will be fueled by the
return of Viktor. I don't see Viktor and Hermione developing a deep
romantic relationship, but they obviously like each other and enjoy
each other's company which will lead to them spending time and do
things together, which will drive Ron straight up the wall. At some
point, this will force Ron to confront and acknowledge his feeling for
Hermione. 

So, I guess the short version is that I see Harry becoming friends
with several girls which allows him to develop an easy confidence
which in turn will lead him to someone he can get romantically close
to in much less stressful way.

Can't prove it, but that's what I thing ...at least what I think /today/.

Steve/bboyminn