[HPforGrownups] Re: Harry's Reaction to Sirius' Death (Was:Two Weeks of Posts...)

[Sherry Gomes]

No: HPFGUIDX 156604

Amiable Dorsai: 
> Do you really think that Harry "put Sirius's death behind him" at the 
> end of two weeks? I didn't think he'd managed it by the end of the 
> book.
<snip> 
>> I seem to be fairly alone in this viewpoint, though.  Does anyone
else
> see it this way?
> 



Sherry now:

No, AD, you are not alone.  I've always felt HBP was full of Harry's grief.
It is just that he doesn't express it in more traditional ways.  He's not
verbal about it at all.  But then, Harry doesn't discuss his hurts with
others.  I completely believed in his grief, because it is the way I grieve.
I do not discuss my feelings with anyone.  not even my siblings when our dad
died.  I pull my pain into myself and agonize in silence.  I thought JKR
showed that very well in things such as Harry's room being a mess at the
beginning of the book, his thoughts at the window waiting for Dumbledore.
His wanting to comfort Tonks but unable to talk about Sirius with her.  Even
blaming Snape, whether or not it is justified, is a classic reaction in the
grieving process.  So, yeah, for me, the subtle way Harry grieves is
actually far more effective and painful than if he did it openly for the
world and the reader to see.

Sherry
Missing her dad on his birthday.