Survivor's guilt and the 5 stages of grief as they relate to Harry

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No: HPFGUIDX 147464

In The Goblet of Fire, The Order of the Pheonix, and The Half-Blood
Prince we see Harry deal with the loss of three different people 2 he
was close to and one he only knew from Quidditch and the Triwizard
tournament.  Let's deal with the survivor's guilt first.  In all three
deaths Harry is present and thinks that if he had done things
differently then that person would still be alive.

In Goblet of Fire he tells Cedric to take the cup with him thus putting
them both in the Graveyard where Voldemort kills Cedric.  In The Order
of the Pheonix Harry is fighting with Bellatrix LeStrange and thinks if
he had finished her off then Sirius would not have died.  In the
Half-Blood Prince Dumbledore uses the full body bind to keep Harry still
and Harry thinks that if he had not been in the bind he could have saved
Dumbledore.

There are five stages of grief that are widely accepted by Psychiatrists 
throughout the world. 
 They are denial, blame, bargaining, anger, and finally acceptance.

Denial to think that what has happened although it has actually happened
being to stunned to believe that this is real.  Harry does this in The
Goblet of Fire with Cedric's death.  He is in shock when he gets back to
Hogwarts with Cedric's body.   He is not the only one that shows this
stage either Fudge does when he says he is hurt and needs to go the
hospital wing before his parents arrive at the maze with Harry clutching
the corpse.

Blame and bargaining can be classed together.   These are the stages
where the if only's shoulda would coulda and I'll do anything to make
things better.  In these stages Harry thinks about what he did and what
he should have done to keep the event from happening.  All three books
demonstrate these two stages of grief quite well.

Anger the emotion to show that you are really upset about things.  This
stage is demonstrated quite well in The Order of the Pheonix.  In
Dumbledore's office Harry throws things and yells quite a bit. 
Dumbledore tells hom what he is feeling is normal.  Harry shouts don't
tell me what I am feeling you know nothing about the way I feel.

The final stage of grief is acceptance.  In this stage you come to terms
with the fact the person who has died is not and will not come back. 
Harry actually looked for a possible chance the Sirius would come back
as a ghost he even asked Sir Nick about this.  Eventually over the
summer Harry realized he could not shut himself away from the world and
time would not stop just because Sirius was gone.  By doing this and
coming to this conclusion Harry had finally processed one death and
possibly 2.  The other being Cedric's.  Even though Cedric's was harder
to process because Harry felt himself directly responsible.

Dumbledore's death will be much harder to process because Harry now
knows that Lord Voldemort utilizes and uses the ones that are close to
him.  In the Half-Blood Prince Harry breaks up with Ginny because he is
afraid for her safety.  This is a realization he made after
Dumbledore's death.

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