[HPforGrownups] Lack of Memorial for Sirius (was Re: JKR's dealing with emotions)

[Sherry Gomes]

No: HPFGUIDX 147528

Juli:
<SNIP>
 So what's better, to keep Harry and Co And 
> the OoP alive, or to give Harry a chance to say goodbye?
> 

Alla:

Right, I don't think both tasks are necessarily mutually exclusive.



Sherry now:

Once Dumbledore was assured Grimauld place was Harry's there could have been
something.  or at the Burrow.  A memorial service is really a necessary part
in the grieving process, the kind of first step.  people who say they don't
want any type of services when they die, are usually not thinking about the
needs of the people left behind.  The wake, or memorial service, gives
people the chance to tell stories, share memories, cry, even laugh, with
others who are experiencing the same loss.  I hated having to plan my Dad's
memorial service, and yet, it was one of the last things I was ever able to
do for him.  it didn't give me closure, because nothing will ever give
closure to such a loss, but it was the connection to his family, friends and
colleagues.  it was the transition between the shock of his death, and the
beginning of the real agony of the grief, the reality.  

i hope there is a plot reason for there to have been no service, because
Harry deserved to have one, if nothing else.  no, everyone around him didn't
even need to talk about it, but just the being together, the unspoken
surrounding and support from whoever would have attended could have been
important to Harry.  It isn't really even a matter of comfort, because
nothing and no words can comfort, but it is a matter of feeling the love and
support of others.  and that does help, a tiny bit.  maybe, when Harry goes
to Godric's hollow, he can do his own private memorial for his parents, for
Sirius and for Dumbledore.

Sherry