Sirius, Sirus, and more Sirius/ Blood protection/ Dumbledore and Harry

[sistermagpie]

No: HPFGUIDX 158530


> Michelle here:
> Not every person that starts out in ugly or even not so nice 
> situations turns out messed up. Some of us are stronger for it.  
> More compassionate... more sensitive to feelings and in touch with 
> others weaknesses.  Not everyone turns to rage or violence when 
> verbally or physically abused.  That's one of the things I connected 
> with most with Harry... he didn't turn dish out what he got... he 
> gave what he lacked.

Magpie:
That's why I tried to not speak in absolutes.  I'm not denying there 
are plenty of people like that in the world.  But I still think it's 
unlikely someone would suggest that putting a kid in a home where he's 
despised and made to understand he's considered he's considered less 
than the biological child of the house is a good thing, or a great way 
to produce a kind, compassionate or well-adjusted person. Just as 
there are people who grew up in awful and even abusive situations who 
grew into loving, successful people, there are plenty of examples of 
people who were raised in abusive situations and became abusive or 
self-destructive or despairing.  And even for the people who turn out 
well, that doesn't change the ethical considerations.  Whether or not 
my putting a child in an unhappy situation is going to cause him 
permenant damage I'd still consider whether it was an okay thing to 
do.  Sure there are times when a tough situation is still the best 
thing to do, but I'd still be deciding to put the kid in a situation 
bound to make him unhappy, and that's going to have its own 
consequences.

-m