[HPforGrownups] Dursleys or Death (was:Re: Christian Forgiveness and Snape...

[Jeremiah LaFleur]

No: HPFGUIDX 164468

> >>Jen:
> <snip>...what parent could choose blood protection over love,
> warmth and real home?
> <snip>

Betsy Hp:
Um...me? This is the other side of the argument I really don't get. I
can only assume that the assumption is that Harry wasn't in all that
much danger. But if I were given the choice between a warm and loving
home for a few years, then my son in Bellatrix's hands for a few hours,
then death, I'd take the blood protection with the Dursley's thank you
very much. Sure Harry suffered, but he's alive.

Seriously, I would send my child to the Dursleys in a heartbeat if the
choice was that or death. And many, many, many other parents have made
that sort of decision before. My heart aches for them, but I totally
understand and agree with their thinking.

Betsy Hp
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Jeremiah:
I agree. I think that Harry has come out just fine and there was no other
protection the Dumbledore could have given him that would serve him better
from being murdered. The focus, for me, is "Shall we have Harry murdered or
just messed up a bit." Because Harry has had the opportunities for
corrective parenting and parental influences from many characters. Obviously
Mr. & Mrs. Weasley, some heart to hearts with Lipin and Sirius, but then
there's McGonagall (very matronly), Dumbledore, Madame Pomfrey and several
others.

The short-term effects of Harry living with the Dursleys are far outweighed
by the parenting he has gotten at Hogwarts. I know there are some people who
would like to chastise DD for nearly everything... maybe DD has had some
devious plan to throw Harry to the wolves all along, but I feel it has been
in preparation for what will come in the last book. DD admits that there are
times when he has been shortsighted when it comes to Hary's needs and
emotions. (end of OotP... that really, really long chapter where DD spills
his guts to Harry). But all faterh-figures and mother-figures, even moms and
dads themselves, make mistakes. there is no perfect childhood. Harry had to
be at the Dursleys so he would not have been murdered and that's the highest
priority, IMO.


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