Lupin and Tonks *Was: Deathly Hallows: My Review )

[va32h]

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Ali wrote:
I felt like killing Lupin AND Tonks was unnecessary,


Then ballycrehane wrote: 
I disagree. It confirmed Tonks' unending love for Lupin (She died at
his side.) Also - Why are there no Godmothers in the WW?

Now va32h here:

You know, at first I thought Tonks was overkill, but now I've decided 
that Teddy is, frankly, better off without either of his parents. 
Lupin has that perpetual self-loathing and defeatist attitude, and 
Tonks is sorely lacking in maternal instinct. 

As a mother - it simply horrified me that Tonks would abandon her 
child to go find her husband. She didn't arrive at Hogwarts to help 
in the fight, she came specifically to look for Lupin - Lupin is the 
only person she asked about, and she abandoned Ginny to the DE they 
were fighting to go scurry off looking for Lupin. 

Given her very codependent behavior prior to Teddy's birth (utterly 
miserable when Lupin has rejected her, instantly happy when he does 
what she wants) I suspect that had his mother lived, Teddy would be 
as ignored and neglected as if she had died anyway. It is Lupin she 
loved and wanted - and chose, in the end. 

It is just incomprehensible to me, as a mother, that any woman would 
choose her spouse over her child. I love my husband very, very much - 
but the love I have for my children...that's immeasurable, it dwarfs 
any other love. I can't understand Tonks' choice and it disgusts me. 

va32h