[HPforGrownups] Re: Lupin and Tonks - What about the baby?

[Janette]

No: HPFGUIDX 173360

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> va32h:


Except that Tonks never, not once, not one single time, says a single
word about "the cause". From the minute she arrives at Hogwarts, she
asks one thing only "Where's Remus?"

Lupin himself tells Harry, in the Forest, that he is happy to have
tried to make the world a better place for his son, but Tonks NEVER
verbally expressed interest in the safety of anyone but Remus Lupin.

And speaking of James and Lily, when Voldemort came calling, what did
> James say? NOT - "chuck Harry out the window and come help me fight".
> He said "Take Harry and run." James wanted Lily to take the baby and
> run for it, he *didn't* want her to die fighting for the cause. When
> Lupin first arrives at Hogwarts he is without Tonks, suggesting that he
> didn't want her to fight either.


montims:
my father died when I was 4, and my mother never stopped telling me she
wished I had died instead of him - he was her chosen companion - she had
loved and lived with him much longer than she had known me - if he had
lived, they could have made another child - she had to go to work to earn
the money to pay for both of us, at great sacrifice, rather than staying at
home looking after his home...

this is a reality, not like all of the letters I have read implying that
motherhood is kind of a sacred profession where women automatically become
saintly and selfless.  It works for some, not for others.  I adore my
husband.  If he was in danger, and I thought I could do the slightest thing
to help, I would try.  I hope I would sacrifice myself for him.  JKR is a
very loving mother.  Given the choice between her children and her husband,
I am sure she would try to protect her children.  Lily did, and that was a
Good Thing.  Merope did not and that was a Bad Thing.

But please, people, don't just take it as a given that mothers are
perfect...


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