ADMIN: Tone on the List

[cubfanbudwoman]

No: HPFGUIDX 173854

Greetings from Hexquarters!

The list elves have noticed that fuses seem just a tiny bit short 
these days at HPfGU.  (What?  You all didn't notice that? <g>)

Having reached the end of the series, it is unsurprising that 
emotions are running deep and reactions to the various outcomes are 
strong.  We would like to remind everyone that, in spite of this -- 
no, really, especially *because* of this -- we all need to be 
attentive to how our words are likely to come across to others.

At this time, we would greatly appreciate everyone stopping to make 
another careful reading of what our posting rules have to say:

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Do not flame, send obscenities or spam, engage in other 
discourteous, disrespectful or illegal behavior or discuss list 
policy onlist (send comments to HPforGrownups-owner at yahoogroups.com 
instead). We welcome debate, but do not attack or insult other list 
members.

If you disagree with someone's message, no matter how strongly, 
please respect the other person's right to his or her own opinion. 
Cite canon to support your arguments and give chapter references; 
when expressing an opinion (as opposed to citing canon) or other 
beliefs (e.g., religious) be sure to make this clear ("I believe..." 
or "In my opinion...").

If you do wish to argue against the post, do so by building up your 
own case, rather than just knocking down the other person's. Your 
post should advance the discussion and not merely repeat arguments 
you've already made. There is no need to have the last word in a 
discussion. Difficult as it is, when faced with irreconcilable 
differences, list etiquette means it is better to walk away.

Also consider how other members of our diverse international 
community might react to your post and remember that sarcasm can be 
difficult to convey in written form. When in doubt, save your 
message overnight and reread it in the light of dawn.

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We want to reiterate that HPfGU is a place where everyone's right to 
express his or her opinion needs to be upheld.  That being the case, 
we ask that members *take care* in expressing those opinions, try to 
be understanding of the differences which exist in our reactions and
interpretations, and not try to convince others of what they should 
or should not feel.

Thanks,
The List Elves