The problems with DD being gay

[delwynmarch]

No: HPFGUIDX 178207

I'm surprised that nobody has yet mentioned some of the real problems
with the matter of DD having been in love with GG, and having
"protected" GG for so long because of this love.

GG was very young when DD fell in love with him. If I'm not mistaken,
he was an older teen, just like DD. He was not an *adult* yet. He was
also very handsome.

We now know, according to the interview, that DD dissimulated the true
reason he waited for so long to go after GG.

Now, let me remind you of another boy.

Tom Riddle was an extremely handsome boy during his Hogwarts years. We
know that DD knew that there was something off about Tom, even before
Tom set foot in Hogwarts. We also know that DD knew that Tom must
somehow be behind all the nastiness happening at Hogwarts those years,
including the murder of a student. And yet, DD didn't tell *anybody*
what he knew and suspected about Tom. He also failed to confront Tom
directly at any time.

See the similarities?

There's also the case of Sirius Black. Sirius, while in Hogwarts,
deliberately sent another student to his death, but he was never
seriously punished for that. Is it a coincidence then that
Sirius happened to be another extremely handsome youth?

If you add on top of all this the facts that:

1- We've never heard of DD having ever loved a man, any man, any
*adult* man.

2- DD deliberately chose to spend his life at Hogwarts. Around
teenagers. Lots and lots of teenagers. Hundreds upon hundreds of them.
Compared to how many single adult men?

3- We know that DD sometimes goes *invisibly* around the castle at night.

I'd say we have a good case of DD being not gay, but ephebophile: it's
not men he loves, but teenage boys.

Now where does that leave Harry? What do we know of DD's feelings for
Harry? Well, he told them to us himself, didn't he? He said that he
had come to "care" for Harry, that he didn't want LV to know that
Harry and DD were "more" than student and teacher, and so on. And
let's not forget DD's tear when Harry said that he was "DD's man,
through and through": what prompted those tears, Harry's expressed
feelings of loyalty, or the resonance that those words might have had
with some romantic dream on the part of DD?

See, that's the problem I have with JKR revealing that DD is "gay":
the canon doesn't support at all DD being gay (ie attracted to grown
men), but it amply supports DD being ephebophile (ie attracted to
teenage boys).

Do I believe that DD was ephebophile? No. First because either I
believe JKR who says "gay", or I believe what I see in the canon which
says, well, nothing at all, and thus implicitely classic heterosexual.
And second because it's just too yucky to see things that way, and
frankly I don't want to be on Rita Skeeter's side on anything.

But do I believe that the canon supports ephebophilia far more than
homosexuality? You bet. Celibate ephebophilia (ie: I don't think DD
ever sexually acted on it, at least once he became an adult), but
ephebophilia nonetheless. And that stinks.

And there's another thing that stinks. Look at what DD's love for GG
made him do: it made him wait for decades before confronting evil,
allowing countless innocents to be harmed and killed. How does this
compare to DD's (and JKR's) message about Love and the Power of Love?
DD keeps telling Harry that it's his ability to love which will
eventually allow him to beat LV. But what did DD's ability to love do
to him? It *prevented* him from fighting evil. DD had to set his love
aside in order to be able to beat evil. How come the rules are so
different in his case? Ah, yes: his was a gay love. Apparently,
heterosexual love and motherly love fortify one against evil, but gay
love weakens one.

All of you out there who are so happy about JKR making DD gay really
should reconsider what it implies about DD and about gay love: it's
not at all what you might think.

Del