Lupin and Tonks WAS: I am so happy. There is a gay - Triumph & Tragedy

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--- In HPforGrownups at yahoogroups.com, "cubfanbudwoman" 
<susiequsie23 at ...> wrote:
 
> SSSusan:
> But.  But.  But didn't canon show us a Lupin who finally 
**allowed** 
> himself to love Tonks fully after Harry yelled at him?  

Marianne:

Not that I saw. I saw a man happy about the birth of his son, a 
child who was spared being a werewolf.  But, I don't think we ever 
had a moment, other than Harry's thinking he saw Remus and Tonks 
holding hands, where Remus ever seemed happy with his 
relationship/marriage. Now, that's just me, and it's perfectly valid 
to see a father happy about his new son and see a man happy with his 
entire family life. It just wasn't evident to me, especially since 
we had instance after instance of Remus being clearly unhappy and 
clearly regretting his marriage.  

SSSusam
> I mean, yeah, we saw resistance and hesitation and surliness and 
> *seeming* lack of interest in Tonks.  But I never took that as 
Lupin 
> *truly* not wanting Tonks.  I took it all as that insecurity & 
fear 
> and even *disgust* with himself for not having made sure Tonks 
didn't 
> become pregnant.  I think Lupin was truly tormented about the 
> possibility that Tonks had made a horrible mistake in loving him 
and 
> in the possibility that they could have a child who would either 
be a 
> werewolf or would be horrified to discover that his/her father was 
> one.
> 
> All of this struck me as very reasonable on Lupin's part. 

Marianne:
Me, too.  And I see this in a completely different light. I think 
this could also be seen as Lupin realizing he has again fallen into 
the pattern he's always shown, which is to allow himself to do what 
makes other people happy, not necessarily what he wants or thinks is 
the right thing to do.  Tonks practically lassoed him in the 
Hospital scene in HBP, and everyone else stood around, taking her 
side, and telling Remus basically that the way he felt or thought 
was wrong, that Tonks's feelings were right. She loved him, and he 
was bound to accept that and sail off into the sunset with her, only 
later allowing himself to voice his real feelings, that the whole 
thing was a dreadful mistake.

Marianne