Lupin's behavior (Was: CHAPDISC: DH11, The Bribe)

[a_svirn]

No: HPFGUIDX 180660

> Alla:
> 
> Slaps her fingers even more. I allowed Remus to wallow in self pity 
> for six books, I mean for three books. It is a cumilative effect 
you 
> see, there is a moment when it started being too much for me.

a_svirn:
I don't remember him wallowing in self-pity, at all – until that 
scene. Oh well, there was also that bitter comment about being a 
ready-made spy. Not that one bitter comment constitutes wallowing, 
much less whining. If anything he's always been reserved and 
distant.  

> Alla: 
> I guess Harry did not reach that moment for me - he whined, but I 
> was not fed up by his whining. Probably because whining was not the 
> only thing he did and if he did not like something, he at least 
> sometimes tried to correct it for the better.
> 
> Yes, I know Remus did heroic things, but not once I saw him trying 
> to CHANGE what he whined about.

a_svirn:
And that would be? Being a werewolf? He cannot change that, alas. 
Being discriminated against? Well, that's why he's fighting Voldemot –
among other things. And he's the practically the only adult member of 
the Order who *does* something to change the WW for the better in DH. 
Or tries to. Being destitute and unemployable? How on earth is he 
supposed he change that? Having fathered a potential werewolf? Again, 
the deed is done and cannot be undone (I suppose Tonks wouldn't have 
even contemplated abortion). So you see the reason for his self-pity 
(which he does *not* indulge in normally), is precisely that – he 
*cannot* change any of that. It is quite out of his control. 

> Alla:
> He loses his job and he is mad at Snape? Go confront him, PLEASE, 
> tell the bastard to his face what you think about him ( Please, I 
am 
> not going to argue about whether it was Remus fault or not, I am 
> only talking about Remus' feelings about Snape and mine too). You 
> are not happy that Dumbledore sent you of all people to werewolfes? 
> Tell another bastard that you. are.not.going, that there are other 
> tasks you can be doing.

a_svirn:
So you want him to rail and rave? Kick furniture? Demolish 
Dumbledore's office, perhaps, like Harry in OotP? Well, that's 
exactly what he did at No. 12.