[HPforGrownups] Re: Lupin's behavior (Was: CHAPDISC: DH11, The Bribe)

[Sherry Gomes]

No: HPFGUIDX 180671

Tiffany:

I didn't like how Lupin didn't apologize for his own conduct then as well.
Harry should've known better than to let his emotions get the better of him
at such a point in time.  However, Lupin's conduct was far more serious &
aggressive towards Harry.  I like Lupin a lot in the novels, but when he
kicked the furniture & used a spell on Harry, I didn't care for him too much
then.




Sherry now:

Why was Harry's behavior so wrong?  Several people have said this, and it
boggles my mind.  Lupin needed a good swift kick in the rear, and Harry gave
it to him.  Frankly, I cheered!  If I'd ever gone on and on to my friends or
family with a bunch of self-pitying whining, run out on my responsibilities,
using my disability as a flimsy excuse, any one of my friends or family
would act the same.  Particularly, perhaps, the young people who have been
taught to respect me as a competent, independent person.  And I would
deserve it and not punch them for telling me the truth.  That does not
minimize the serious discrimination Lupin faced in his life, but he let it
stop him, let it become an excuse and a crutch to get him out of personal
closeness and taking responsibility and charge of his own life and choices.
I thought Harry was absolutely right.  I've said before in this thread that
I had always liked Lupin, but I was disgusted with him in this scene and was
glad someone, at last, had stopped buying into his poor me the werewolf act,
and told him off.  It did end up having the desired effect, because Lupin
appeared to have gotten his act together and acted like an adult, the
competent valuable adult he really was, not the self-pitying jerk he had
been playing for too long.

Sherry