Lupin's leaving was Defining Moments (was Re: CHAPDISC: DH32, The Elder Wand

[jkoney65]

No: HPFGUIDX 184813

> Pippin:
> The typo says it all. <g> Lupin didn't leave his family because he
> wanted to be *with* Harry. He left because he wanted to *be* Harry. 
He
> wanted the clear importance of a  do-or-die mission from Dumbledore
> instead of the uncertain rewards  of being a stay-home dad. In
> isolation, it does read as if Harry's jumping to conclusions, but if
> you look at all of Lupin's interactions with Harry, he's only ever
> wanted to be involved if something important was going on. 
Otherwise,
> it's been out of sight, out of mind. 
> 
> Lupin left a pregnant woman with whom he'd sworn a life bond, one 
who
> was prone to depression, and was certainly at risk considering her
> situation: targeted by death eaters, jobless or soon to be, facing
> rejection from her family and her husband and on top of it all the
> possibility of bearing a disabled child. 
> 
> Tonks's plight, if Lupin had abandoned her, might have been very
> similar to Merope's. It would be sadly ironic if Lupin had helped to
> save the world from Voldemort, only to have Teddy grow up to be
> another Tom.
> 
> 
> Pippin
>
I didn't get that from the story at all. 

Lupin appearred to be acting like a very stressed out first time 
father. Add in his normal self loathing  and you have someone who 
believes he is doing something noble by leaving his pregnant wife. 

While he has come to some sort of acceptance of being a werewolf for 
himself he hasn't been able to cope with how his being a werewolf is 
going to affect his wife and child. This is one of the reason's he 
was trying to avoid Tonk's in the first place. He got brow beaten 
down at the end of HBP but his fears never went away. Now with a 
child on the way and they came back out in force.

He just needed someone to smack him down like Harry did. He seemed to 
be quite the excited Dad when he visited Bill's house.

Jack-A-Roe