[HPforGrownups] RE: JKR to Emma Watson: H should've married H

[Shelley]

No: HPFGUIDX 192611

On 2/19/2014 7:33 PM, dumbledore11214 at yahoo.com wrote:
> Alla:
>
> As to marriages, sure, I get what they symbolized - I just think that 
> it would have felt more believable to leave the idea as to whether it 
> is possible to meet your forever true love and never, ever date 
> anybody else when you are eleven up to reader's imagination. Because 
> while I am not the one to deny teenage love (as I am sure I mentioned 
> before close member of the family met his wife when they were 
> sixteen-seventeen), I think it is rare and meeting each other as kids 
> is so rare that  could be eye rolling.
>


Shelley now:
I realize I am late in answering this, but I think the pairing of 
childhood friends or classmates occurs far more frequently than you know!

I, myself, met my husband, in kindergarten. My husband and I are one of 
3 pairs of classmates of our year that married, right after high school, 
along with a 4th couple that "refound" each other after a 5 year class 
reunion, making for 4 marriages of same-year classmates, but I can show 
you another handful of classmates of mine who also married within the 
school- kids of a different grade. Our school was a small one, about 
250-290 classmates per grade, in a rural area. I know, from talking to 
my mother-in-law, that her rural school also produced multiple marriages 
of classmates. Given Hogwarts is a similiar set-up where the same kids 
attend for many years in a row, generating a strong intimacy of your 
classmates, and that school is segregated by location and lack of 
interaction with other schools, pairings between classmates and pairings 
between kids of different years is far from a "rare" idea.  A city 
school, where kids interact daily with kids from other schools in that 
same city produce a lot more different school pairings, because the 
access is there to do so.

I also question your "never date anyone else" comment- where did 
Rowlings ever say that Ron and Hermione never dated anyone else? We have 
from the books that Hermione and Ron didn't go to the ball together, 
rather, Hermione had a relationship with Victor Crum, that continued for 
some time past the dance. While Ron was oblivious to "girls", Hermione 
was not the same about "boys". So much of Hermione's life, when she was 
not with Ron and Harry, isn't in the books, but it is alluded to. Harry 
was not upset that Hermione was dating, but Ron seems to be startled by 
it. Whether Rowlings was just trying to paint the boys as being new to 
the dating scene, or a jealousy by Ron that was the start of his 
romantic feelings for Hermione, gosh knows.
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